- Read articles and books. Life is Too Short for Tantric Sex is a new one a friend gave to me.
- Don’t be shy—buy a vibrator. That same friend swears by the Eroscillator.
- Continue to learn. Another friend introduced me to Lou Paget, a woman who hosts informative and entertaining seminars for women.
- Talk to your partner. Find your boundaries together and push them when you both are in the mood.
Loosen up. Sometimes a massage or a glass of wine can relax the mind and body enough to make that move you have thought about but were too shy to try. Don’t get discouraged by my sextextperiment. Chances are, your trick will work.
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