Did women suddenly awake with sexual superhero-like powers? What is all this talk about women having the ability for liquid expulsion during climax? Why didn’t anyone teach me about this in Sex Education 101? And, more importantly, if female ejaculation is a natural response to extreme sexual stimulation, why have I not experienced it? Is there something wrong with my sex life, since I have never ejaculated? Where does female ejaculate come from? Is it urine? Is female ejaculation normal?
VibeReview has received email after email on this very topic. The above questions are just a few of the questions we receive weekly. Men and women are fascinated with female ejaculation (also referred to as “squirting” or “gushing”). This growing fascination is having a profound impact on the sex life of many men and women. Interestingly enough, men have shown a tremendous interest in female ejaculation. For many men, female ejaculation provides a new sense of eroticism that extends beyond mental intimacy. In a way, female ejaculation is the physical illustration, for them, of a job well done. There are so many different avenues of discussion that we could travel together; however, this brief article will serve as introduction to female ejaculation. I will also recount my personal experiences with female ejaculation. Yes, I am a proud squirter. And, yes, my sex life has never been better!
Female ejaculation’s place in humanity’s sexual history cannot be denied. Art work in various cultures, from the annals of history to post-modernism, provide a glimpse at feminine sexual excitement—from orgasms to gushing femininity of love. Hinduism particularly captured the art of female emission many generations ago, illustrating the process in detailed sculptures. What is apparent is that female ejaculation, though only recently discussed and investigated, has been a part of female sexuality for years in many cultures. Put simply, just because we are now discussing it, it does not follow that it’s not always been there.
Before beginning any detailed discussion of female ejaculation, the G-Spot (also termed the Grafenberg spot or Skene’s/Paraurethral glands) must be discussed. In the early 1900s, Dr. Ernst Grafenberg identified the ventral side of the vagina, which is a part of the urethral sponge, as a source of intense female sexual gratification—the spot in which female excitability is brought to life at a greater intensity. Upon stroking of this vaginal surface, women experience orgasms of a different type that are equally satisfying, or more enjoyable than, clitoral orgasms. Like the prostate gland, the G-Spot’s sensitive fibers (a bundle of nerves, it has been described) react favorably to “rubbing” or consistent, yet comfortable pressure. Knowing where to find this pleasure button and how to stimulate it factors greatly in the potential for females to orgasm and eventually ejaculate. Experiment as a couple. Or experiment with your own body solo.
Knowing the location of the G-Spot and the type of stimulation needed for total arousal is important, but it’s merely a beginning. While most of the women (myself included) I know and have talked with admit that G-Spot orgasms are their main source of female ejaculate, clitoral and cervix stimulation can also influence or force a woman to ejaculate. I have found that clitoral rubbing aids in extending female ejaculation, but I rarely ejaculate as a result of clitoral stimulation alone. Every woman is different, so getting to know your own body is part of the process and, quite frankly, an abundance of fun, especially when shared with a communicative partner who is trustworthy. Find what works best for you. Don’t place too much pressure on yourself to perform in any particular way. When you hit the right spot in the right way, you will immediately know. Practice improves frequency and intensity. If you need assistance on technique or any other relevant questions, check out Holistic Wisdom.
