Let’s get real about something. The female orgasm is a skittish mother fucker. Most of the women I know say they cannot always come during sexual intercourse, and when they do, it’s only in certain positions, with certain things being stimulated. Some of the women I know can only come from oral sex, while others can never come at the hands of a partner, though they do just fine on their own.
And in the interest of full disclosure, in hopes that you’ll share what makes YOU come in the comments.
Here’s what works for me: I can orgasm during oral sex, but only if I’m really, really comfortable with the person I’m with. One-night-stands and casual partners don’t have a shot, though I’ll still have a good time of it. I’ve only been able to come with one partner during sex and it happened a whopping TWO TIMES in our five-year relationship. How it happened, I dunno. It happened and then it was over and I was so psyched I forgot how to do it again. After the jump, eight women share what gives them the Big O.
- “I can come in a snap if a guy fingerbangs my g-spot. Pretty much any penetration works, oral alone isn’t going to do it ... I’m weird.”
- “I think the vaginal orgasm is a complete and total myth. I have never ever had an orgasm from sex. I’ve faked it with every single person I was ever with. Every time. I only had an orgasm once from oral. Most of the time, I am only guaranteed the big O if there’s machinery involved, or if it’s me and my own dirty thoughts. Much as I hate to say it, the majority of the time, if someone else is on the scene it only serves to distract me from the subject at hand (pun intended). They say that there’s more to sex than orgasm, and I’m living proof. I’ve been at it for thirteen years with nothing to show for it except a long list of dudes who failed to get me off.”
- “I was just having this conversation with guy friends over the weekend. Half seemed to think women never had orgasms and half seemed to think they always did. How does this dichotomy happen? Are they only with total prudes or fakers? I’d say I have an orgasm in 70 percent of sexual encounters. This feels so strange to type out at work, but you asked for it. For me, I come very easily from oral sex, manual stimulation, or dry humping. Probably the most effective is a good old fashioned hand job, especially if the guy pays some attention to my nipples at the same time—that takes about a minute and a half flat. During actual sex, it’s much trickier. I can only have an orgasm if we’re in a position where either he or I can give some manual stimulation. Still feels amazing, I just won’t have an orgasm from it.”
