As an open-minded individual, I accept the fact that the majority of men, as well as a lot of women, look at porn. With its high level of accessibility on the internet, it is no wonder that it has become the norm in today’s society. What red-blooded man do you know that won’t look at a pretty girl if given the chance, especially a naked one? That being said, I will be the first to admit that I occasionally view it myself. I have been happily married to my husband for almost sixteen years and I know that he looks at porn on a regular basis. His web history is a tell-all. We have a very healthy sexual relationship, and at times, we watch porn together. For the most part, though, porn is usually viewed in private. That way each individual can choose whatever type of porn floats their boat.
Why people view porn can be for many reasons. Both men and women might view it for some of the same reasons, or the different sexes might have their own separate reasons. It could be for curiosity, to learn something new, to turn oneself on for masturbation purposes, or to just get in the mood. Whatever the reason, it’s out there and anyone who denies that is foolish.
Speaking from a woman’s point of view, one who is in a monogamous relationship, I have to say that most of us are of mixed feelings about it. While we see it as normal on one hand, we tend to disapprove on the other. If our significant other is visiting porn sites a little too often, we become concerned. Are we not satisfying our partner any more? Is my guy interested in something younger than me? Is he unhappy? Why, why, why? How could he do this to me? Those are just a few of the things that cross our minds.
We wouldn’t allow our men to go out and view naked women in the flesh, let alone people having sex. So why is it acceptable in the cyber world? For one thing, it is on a screen and you can’t touch it—but does that make it right? I think not, but who am I to judge? I think most women would be fine with it if it was consensually viewed together with their partner, but if done by oneself in private, we consider it as a form of cheating for the most part. It can hurt, it can cause distrust, and it can cause anxiety. If you are doing something that you don’t want your spouse or partner to see, then technically you shouldn’t be doing it right? If I do it, I always tell my husband I did it and it generally leads to some exciting times in bed. That is not to justify myself or to say that it is okay. It’s just what it is.
What happened to the good old days when a woman just gave her man the eye for looking at some pretty young thing in a parking lot? If this is what we are doing now, what on earth will future generations be doing or find acceptable? One can only imagine.
Keep it real, people! Real sex is better than cybersex, hands down, any day.
