Recently, I have been remarried for my second time. We have already been separated five different times in a three month period due to him walking out. We dated for a year before we married and have only been married four months. He claims that he is living with family. I contacted his family last week due to an accidental overdose of his anti-depressants. His parents told me that they hadn’t seen him and were under the impression he was still with me.
I was very confused as to why he would lie to me like that as he never had before. He always comes back or calls me wanting me to take him back just over night and acts as if nothing has ever happened between us. First he blames me for his leaving, stating that I take things to seriously, after he will make a comment about me not going to bed when he does due to talking to my children on the phone long distance who are with their biological father part-time. He says his job is very stressful and that I place my children before him. Yet my children don’t even live with me and I talk to them each night before bed for about an hour on the phone and most of the time he will come in from work, go straight to the shower and go to bed whether I am fixing or have fixed dinner for him or not.
I have always felt disrespected by how he treats me, yet I have over looked it many times. I am at a point right now where I am just fully stressed and tired of his actions. Yet he has called me again wanting to come back. I have told him no because I don’t want to be wondering if my husband is going to be here with me to stay or if he’s going to be walking out again the next day.
It has really had me in a financial bind as well due to the fact that I am partly disabled and am not always able to work forty hours a week. What do I do? Do you all think me telling him no is the right thing? He has always had an issue with helping out with our bills and stresses about money all the time. Yet he went out a month ago and bought a new car without even talking to me at a time that we were together and my car had just broke down leaving me without a car but he’s able to get to work in his then up and leaves the next day again . I’m very tired of this... he won’t leave me alone at all and to him it’s funny to act as if nothing has ever happened. Help if you can, I’m so aggravated and feeling at a loss.
