Can you be friends after splitting up? We don’t have children, we never shared bank accounts, but we did share a house. He helped me load the truck eight months ago when I moved. He didn’t deliver it but he helped me load it. We started off talking everyday and now it is about four to five days a week. He recently got a DUI, so the only way to see him is for me to make the effort to see him.
I felt guilty and responsible for him, why? I guess I felt guilty because I left him with all the responsibility for the house. I walked away. I didn’t try to save our marriage. I know your wondering why did I leave? The sex was bad since day one, I tried everything for years. It was like training a teenager for fourteen years. I got tired and started faking orgasms because I wanted it to be over. I didn’t care anymore. After a while, I didn’t want him to even kiss me anymore, I would cringe. How do you reverse that? Do you actually think sex therapy could do anything at this point? I was done, in my head. I knew there has to be more to life.
I still loved him, but I felt resentment. I didn’t want to hate him. I had to leave before I would. Now I am on my own and still loving him but as a very dear friend. I have no romantic feelings what so ever. He still does but respects my decision and told me that if he could only have me as a friend, that he would rather that than nothing. He thanks me all the time for the little things I do for him. I don’t feel like I am doing enough. I wouldn’t mind hanging out with him as a friend because I miss him. I really like hanging with him. Is this weird or what? I love my life on my own, I love living alone. I don’t want any relationship with him, I just want to be friends. Is this possible?
