It might be safe to say that not everyone is a cheater, but everyone—everyone—knows a cheater. If you beg to differ, then we bet if you dig a little deeper or get to know more about more people in your social circles, you’ll ultimately find one in the bunch. We don’t say this because we have a murky view on relationships or because we’ve been spurned in the past by a lowly lover. It’s only because, unfortunately, that’s the reality of life around us these days. There’s sex everywhere you look, the media is fascinated with infidelity, technology both enables it and uncovers it - all resulting in people are being pre-programmed not to commit (or not valuing commitment) in relationships from an early stage.
We’ve heard many stories at BounceBack of cheating, and wanted to compile a list of the tools cheaters use to do their dirty work, in hopes that you’ll be able to recognize the potential red flags in their own relationships. Here are some of the tricks of the trade that cheaters use when attempting to get away with being unfaithful:
Phone Calls: Perhaps the oldest trick in the book was having the other woman/other man call the house, and the cheater would answer the phone and say, “Oh, it’s just Jim from work,” or something along those lines. These days, with mobile phones, cheaters don’t have to go to such great lengths and run the risk of being caught at home. Beware of disguised names as cell phone entries—a cheater can change the name on their cell phone so the significant other would never know that there was another person in the picture. So Rebecca the waitress turns into “Jim from work,” who always calls late because “he’s going through a tough time.” If your significant other is always taking late calls, or if their phone rings incessantly while you’re around but they won’t answer the phone, you may want to ask them about it. If they have nothing to hide, they won’t mind the question.
