My story may be a little weird but I’m sure some can relate. It started in 2007 when I found out that my boyfriend was cheating on me with a coworker in the office. The thing is we worked in the same building but for different companies. He and his coworker were friends. At the time he was going to school and he needed help with a couple subjects, which she was more than welcome to assist with. He told me about the study group between them both and where the meeting place was, which was at her home. I told him “no” as he could study at the office after work, but he insisted that I have nothing to worry about. I trusted him.
After months of picking up signs, I realized that he was cheating on me with the coworker. It was a Saturday that I confront him about what I found, which were emails and phone texts etc., and I broke up with him that night. That Sunday I saw him and he asked for us to see a counselor so we could work it out and I agreed.
After the counseling is the make-up and the start fresh commitment. I still had doubts about them as I have noticed that he never got rid of this girl. Yes I am aware that he has to work with her and that’s ok, I can’t help that but he still has a friendship/ relationship with her where he speaks to her like their friends at the office, sharing their experiences, relationship problems, and getting way deep into each other lives.
Surprisingly, we are now married and we have a baby on the way, but I still feel as if he has this special place in his heart for this woman even though when he is with me I’m all that matters to him. I’m wondering if I’m being jealous about the whole situation and if I should let the past be the past and allow them to be friends. I guess just trusting is not good enough as he had broken his trust four years ago. I want to move on, but it is so hard to because she is always there and he will always be talking to her; also what is hard for me to understand is why can’t he let her go? Could it be that they are just friends or he just wants the two pieces of cake and have them all at once. Or is it that I’m in the way of their love that should have been there in the first place? Help!
