No one wants to face a divorce, but it’s a tough situation that millions of people each year struggle to get through. Divorces come in all shapes and sizes. Sometimes there are hard feelings between spouses and other times the couple will still get along very well. It’s difficult to tell what’s going to happen and sometimes you just have to see how it goes. The ball is in your court and you just need to make the best choices you can at the time.
One thing is for sure; once you are divorced, you shouldn’t be having intimate moments with your ex! Everyone says that I’m the last person who should ever tell someone NOT to have sex. But in this instance, it is unwise because of the myriad of issues that will accompany it. You can only be free by breaking your emotional and physical ties. Only then can you move on easily to bigger and better things.
Of course, you will want to remain friendly with your ex. This is for obvious reasons. When things go a lot smoother, you will find it to be a lot easier to get things accomplished. However, you really can kill them with kindness. For instance, you do not want to be so kind that you’re jeopardizing your health and well-being for any reason. You don’t want to get involved with the complicity of having sex with your ex when you are trying to rebuild your life and make something better for your future.
When you are trying to reconstruct your life, you want to do the right things. You need to make the right choices for you and your family so that you’re not putting anyone's well being at risk. This includes your ex. When you are still carrying on an intimate relationship with your ex-partner, you will find that you may be setting either one of you up for a very big fall. This is not something that you should be doing at this stage of the game.
A divorce is something that can be very complicated and when you are combining sex with your ex, you are only making the situation more complicated. You need to make sure that you are severing these ties and making it very clear that you are not interested in that old part of your life anymore. Of course, you need to make sure of this before you file for divorce. Plus, having a physical relationship is not the only thing that matters with a marriage. As Dr. Phil says, when sex is working, it is about 10% of your relationship. When it isn’t working, it’s about 90%. You need to have all the factors there so that you can have a successful relationship that works for both of you.
There are so many things to worry about when you are trying to rebuild your life after a divorce. You don’t want to deal with too much when you already have so much on your plate. You want to be careful and make the wise decisions that you know you can make. You have to be willing to let the physical side of your relationship go so that you can free your mind and body up for the next chapter in your life.
There is so much life out there. When you’re finally divorced, you will be able to take it all on. You definitely shouldn’t be holding on to the past even if it is temporarily comforting. You want to get out there are find out who you are and what your goals and dreams are in life. This is the only way that you can make your new life a huge success. It’s worth exercising self-control when it comes to refraining from having sex with your ex.
