At 2:14 a.m., I received the following text from an “unknown” number:
“I’m really not sure who u r but u need 2 stp calln my man. I’m tired of c’n ur number on his phone bill!!! GAME OVER.”
Mind you, this text message was sent to my cell phone after a call came in from a restricted number, and the usual suspect did not leave a voicemail message or call back number. Pretty childish if you ask me.
Listen, ladies—do not dignify a cheating mate by calling the numbers in his phone, on phone bills, or text messages. If you discover that’s what your mate is doing, confront him about it because nine times out of ten, the other person does not know he is in a relationship. There is the one out of ten who just doesn’t give a rat’s you-know-what, but that’s her.
Remember this—if there is no ring on either of your fingers he is not yours and you are not his! In fact, you should never aspire to own anyone. Rather, have a great partnership built on trust and, if you find that there is none, then you need to move on.
Furthermore, understand that trying to own someone is not going to make that person love you more, stay with you, or stop cheating on you. I’ve been through it. I know exactly what I’m talking about and cannot stand to see beautiful women make the same mistake I made in my youth. Believe me, I step when I see things aren’t right ... I always deserve better and know just how to get it these days.
The most important thing for you to do is learn to do you—as the new slang states! So you’re right ... the game should be over! Leave women like me alone and go get your own money, call your own shots, buy your own luxuries, that way you won’t be all ticked off when big daddy walks out the door for the next piece of gorgeous USDA prime grade that caught his attention, time, calls, and passion. Now if you have all those things and big daddy still steps out, then you just need to move on because obviously what you have isn’t what he wants (but quite possibly what he needs)!
At any rate, I had to laugh when I got the text this morning ... some woman, or girl, was actually up at that hour going through her man’s business while I slept peacefully. Puh-leze, move on, girlie ... if my number is on his bill, so be it, and remember it is his bill, unless you’re foolish enough to keep paying it. Stop degrading yourself by chasing after that man and make him realize that YOU are the queen who has her pick of anyone she chooses. Don’t lose any sleep over his indiscretions.
