I am very reflective and positive on everything life throws at me, so I believe everyone should be like that. The easiest way to get over your ex is to learn from that mistake of a relationship and move on by journaling and making a list.
Journaling? A list? I know you think I’m crazy, but it works. I believe that everyone should have a writer somewhere in them. You don’t have to have a writer in you all the time, but you can have it in you when times get rough, and getting over an ex is one of those times that I’m talking about.
When you have just broken up with someone and have just gotten out of a bad relationship, you should pull out your notebook or journal. Be sure to be honest with yourself, and be very expressive because it offers you more clarity. If you feel comfortable acting as if the journal was another person, feel free to name it. For example: “Dear Kitty, Today was extremely hard on me. Today I found out Tom was cheating on me with his ex-girlfriend …”
Write out exactly how the scene of the break-up took place, who said what, and what actions were taken by both parties. When you’ve done that, it will allow you to release all of your pent-up emotions and it’ll release a lot of tension. Write out how you feel about how you feel about what took place, what both parties said, and what you think about your actions. Is there something that wasn’t said? Is there a void that needs to be filled? Do you need closure? Write down what you feel about the void, why you feel you need closure so much, and write down what you really wanted to say to your ex. Don’t forget to write out what you’ve learned from this relationship and what lessons you’ll take with you into your next relationship, if you choose to have another one.
When you finish journaling, write out a list of what you want your next partner to look like, what personality qualities you want her/him to have, and whatever else is important to you in a relationship. Be sure to look through your journal for more ideas to add to your list. You can update your list as much as you need to because you’ll be dating a lot to find what you truly want.
