With Kindness and Compassion
The lure of notoriety, the lure of attention getting. Infamous is just as memorable as famous. The power to piss of people and get joy from being mean and crude. We all have seen the destructiveness of certain people and their mean and hateful words. I decided to look into why some people are so rude and hateful. I figured his rude and hateful behavior is a cry for help and attention. I figured they had a difficult childhood lacking attention and praise from anyone in his or her surroundings. At home, at school, at work, and in social situations, I imagine them a lonely, unattractive, uninteresting, loathsome oaf, full of rage and resentment from living a life of rejection and pain.
Many in his life probably sowed seeds of rejection and criticism in his heart and mind, and he in turn projects it onto others in his path. He passes on his shame and self-loathing onto others to relive the burden of carrying all himself. Misery loves company, and he perpetuates the misery onto others so he is not alone in his misery and loneliness. In a moment of clarity, I realized that the answer is found in the movie, The Grinch Who Stole Christmas. A green-with-envy, angry, abusive, yellow-toothed monster whose shoes and heart were two sizes too small and he stole Christmas from Whoville. Stealing the joy and happiness of others for his own ruthless jealousy and hatred of anything joyful. How this made sense to me in the story of our own concerns with certain comments made by some.
The part that made me happy was that Little Cindy Loo Who made a difference in the Grinch’s heart by not letting anyone steal her happiness inside of her. Even though the outside paraphernalia was gone, she had inner joy, which she continued to spread even to the Grinch himself. As the story goes, the Grinch’s heart grew three times bigger and he brought back joy in his own heart and understood that joy comes from within and we have choices to be in joy or in anger. Meanies, I suggest you rent The Grinch Who Stole Christmas and watch it several times and imagine you are the Grinch, and see if the story resonates with your un-evoked anger at those around you and those of us who merely are here for pleasure and sharing our thoughts and words without doing harm to others.
I hope you are open to change, and find love in your heart for yourself and others and begin to be kind and ethical to others. Like attracts like, so if you project kindness and love you shall receive the like. Peace to us all. Let’s kill the Grinch inside of mean people with kindness and compassion, and hopefully find a person of respect and integrity underneath all the hatred and meanness that only reflects a lost and lonely, scared little child who did not receive what he thought he might deserve ... Love and kindness.
