What if I tell you that forgiveness could bring you all the peace and happiness you need? This is exactly what you will receive when you decide to let go of all the hurt and pain from the past and forgive those who you think inflicted it on you.
For many years, I thought my father was my worst adversary. Even though I had always loved him too much and missed a normal relationship with him, he would never seem to have the time or desire to get to know me and share his life with me. Over time, I learned to live without him but deep inside I had created a world where he was the sole creator of all my anguish and personal doubts. Our relationship never flourished. I did not get to know him. He never had the opportunity to truly know me either.
The morning I received the news of his departure from this world, all kind of mixed feelings ran through me. Apparently there were no emotions. I could not find the way to react and kept it inside. A week passed until one morning I realized what I had been missing. That day I drowned into tears—the same ones I had been trying to hold and for the first time I was able to release him and forgive him for all the things I thought he had done to me. I surrounded him with love and finally let him go.
The truth is that no one can hurt you unless you allow it. I did that for too long—thinking that just because he was my father, he had to be perfect. I had taken his actions and reactions to a personal level, when in reality, they were not meant to hurt me. That was just him and people behave according to their own personal upbringing and experiences. Don’t expect perfection from anyone, not even those you love dearly. Don’t take anything personal. Hidden among these supposed realities there are lessons we all have to learn.
In the end, I realized that my father had given me the best tools to shape the woman I am now. I realized that he was a vital piece in the formation of a loving woman who has learned to accept, love, and respect others the way they are. Through him, I learned to make my family my priority. He did not take away from me but brought meaningful insights to what a compassionate and fulfilled life means.
Since that morning, a huge load was lifted from my shoulders. Happiness has been my daily path and miracles happen every day while I share this feeling with those around me. Every soul has its own path. Sometimes attachments and deep feelings could get in the way of allowing others to walk towards their own mission. The best way to transform a life is by example. Forgive and you will be able not only to change your life but that of others. Forgive and your life purpose will be revealed. You will find peace and peace will shower your days with blissful happiness.
