No Men Allowed in the Delivery Room

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First published November 2009

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Personally, as a new father-to-be this guy who thinks men should stay out is a ass h** and need to get a grip on realty that really pisses me right off and other might agree that women will always need her partner for support really!!!!

Personally, as a new father-to-be, I heavily disagree with the Frenchman. My fiancé wants me to be there through every step of the pregnancy from conception to birth, and I want to be there for her and the child myself. The way I see it, I helped make the child, I should be allowed to help my fiancé through everything that comes with it. Now, don't get me wrong, I understand the point the Frenchman wishes to convey, but my fiancé and I have spoken about this and we are both heavily unimpressed with this doctor's opinion. I thoroughly believe that the decision to have the father present should be up to the couple who are having the child, not some official know-it-all that clearly doesn't know it all!

I think this article is directed at people who are at risk of having a hard time because they are not deeply comfortable with themselves (not wanting to be seen bleeding and pooping) and have in turn attracted a partner that would be judgmental or re-enforce the insecurities that this person has (i.e. WOULD get grossed out at the process and/or do something to make the woman feel "less than" or insufficient in some way during the birth process). Ideally, I would like to have my children at home with my husband present as a support, but with the understanding that if I need to be alone, that's just what's up, no offense meant. I think a supportive partner would do WHATEVER the woman needs to be comfortable and for her birth to progress. Maybe having conversations about the reality of birthing is necessary to get some guys prepped for the real thing. Men should not be made out to be a danger in the delivery room. The presence of the father at the birth is a choice specific to each couple

Here in Africa, the husband stays at beer joint to wait for the 'goodnews'. If it is a boy, the men will have free drink! Hahaha!

My hubby insisted on being there. He was my support. Heck, he was the REASON I was in this condition! I think it made him a more hands on father because he did see the 'cost' of giving birth to his child. He later told me, "I love you more and respect you more than ever, because you did this for love." We never regretted it!