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Pregnant and Chubby

I’m wondering if there is anyone else out there that feels the way I do right now. I had the “master” plan of loosing weight before and would try to get pregnant with my second child. I was already overweight when I was pregnant with my first and I promised myself to change things before the next pregnancy … because is not fun to be chubby and pregnant! I felt humiliated at every doctor’s visit. My belly wasn’t round, hard and beautiful like normal women. It was so embarrassing to have to show it. I had to be so careful to pick clothes that would make me look obviously pregnant and not just fatter. So, that was my plan … to never go thru that again.

… So, a few days ago I found out I am pregnant. My emotions are going up and down and up and down … Of course I am happy for my baby! I am thrilled that my 12-month-old baby girl will have a sister or brother to play with; it’s just the stupid superficial things that are trying to still my joy. I really wanted to have a different experience with my next pregnancy. I haven’t lost even half of what I needed to loose. I’ve been so worried I haven’t been able to sleep since I found out but with all my mixed emotions I came up with some conclusions.

The way I see it I have a couple of choices:

I either continue to feel sorry for myself and worry about ALL the future humiliations that I’ll have to go thru, keep comparing myself to other women (specially all my skinny pregnant close friends!) focusing on the down side of things and basically worrying about things I cannot change overnight and allowing all these to get the best of my experience …

Or I could do completely the opposite! Be thankful for the blessing of caring a child and focus on that, take care of my body and nutrition the best way I can and just learn to love myself for what I am right now and not for what I could be or would want to be.

Why is it that is so easy for women (me) to find our self-worth in our appearance? I desperately want to be free from that and enjoy life … enjoy my children! And most importantly, to be able to make the changes that are necessary to set a good example of health and love for life for them so they don’t have to go thru what I did.

First published August 2007

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i went through my fist pregnancy at avg. weight by my second i was overweight and i am with this pregnancy as well if i make it to term this will be my 4 th and i can't find any pregnancy sites that show us overweight people that are current don't be discouraged big is beautiful pregnant or not we are not super models on a runway we are who we are and sometimes you can't change keep up the positive attitude i look forward to reading more of your blogs congrats

I just googled this problem and that's how I found you and this website. Needless to mention that I totally share your pain. I'm sitting here crying because I should be elated with joy and all I could think about is how huge I'm going to get! I'm 5'3 and I weigh 154.5 lbs. (those of us that have weight problems know that the extra .5 matters). And to me it doesn't matter if I'm 20lb. over or 50lb. over, fat is fat. I was suppose to get back to 135lbs and it was just impossible. I have a 14 month old beautiful little boy and I just found out this past weekend that I'm pregnant. I'm only like a week or two pregnant, but I'm scared to eat because I'm scared to see my OBGYN's face when she first weighs me in. I don't need the lecture! It's not like I'm sitting at home doing nothing and shoveling cake down my throat. I'm so terrified that I won't EVER get down to my goal weight.

I understand how you all feel. I a really bad day last week because of my weight and me being pregnant. I am only 8 weeks and I weigh 212 pounds. My cousin says I have gotten bigger since Memorial Day and that was only 5 days ago! I try to be happy that I am carrying a life in me, but it is hard. I feel so fat and overweight. I feel this way because I know its all fat from me and not the pregnancy. I really should not complain because my husband excepts me any way that I am, but sometimes that does'nt even matter. I guess I am still having a pity day. Hopefully this mood will not last too much longer. Congrats to all of you. I know you all will have healthy beautiful babies. Thanks for letting me vent.

We are kindred spirits!! I was 20lbs overweight when I got pregnant with my first child, my daughter who is almost 4. I gained 55lbs while pregnant with her. I was determined not to be overweight when we decided to get pregnant again and it was a struggle. I ended up losing 20 lbs before getting pregnant but I was still overweight...10lbs heavier than I was the first time so you can imagine my frustration. I only gained 35lbs while pregnant but I am still much heavier than before and my waist has disappeared!! I am working on it, though it is slow going. My son is now 10 months and I have only lost about 10 lbs. I had no problems looking pregnant while I was... I had the perfectly round belly however everyone thought I was having twins... or more! I was so big that XL maternity clothes barely fit!! Now I am trying not to still look pregnant!! It would be nice to not occasionally slip back into a maternity shirt or pants.

hi all, i to am a little over weight. but just went on the web and purchased this book called pregnancy with out the pounds. it is fab. she says that we shouldnt be to obsessed about the weight that we gain as long as we are eating healthy and exersizing. wour bodies will bounce back even if we are gaining more than what we expected it to. its not about us its about the wonderful baby. not that i am perfect. i have gained 16lbs and am 20 weeks. but it is what it is. and i believe that if we just make sure that we are eating healthy and exersizing even if we are just walking for 15 min. we will all be ok in the end. i gained 88lbs with my first child and 40 with my second after my second i lost it all even the extra that i had gained with my first. with my 3rd i gained 70 my forth 40 again and with this one i hope to gain 30-35 that is what my body likes to gain and i am not a skinny mother eather. my curent prepreg weight was 196lbs. just trust your body and dont stress. :)