Acceptable at Thirteen, Not so Much at Thirty
Regardless of the trigger, most kids engage in some sort of nervous habit and nail biting is the most common. It is a way for them to deal with stressful and anxious situations. Because it is such an oft-occurring habit, nail biting is usually not a cause for alarm (i.e., it doesn’t necessarily mean your child has some kind of disorder). The best way to wean kids off their fingers is to figure out what they’re worried about in the first place and address those concerns. The worst thing to do is to threaten punishment (I told you, Mom!) or make youngsters feel like they’re doing something wrong. This will only increase their anxiety. Make them aware of the behavior without being negative.
Nail biting is most common between the ages of ten and eighteen, and roughly 10 to 15 percent of adults over the age of thirty still bite their nails. Since the majority of people are able to outgrow the habit, why are some unable to kick nail biting to the curb? Like any other stress-related behavior, some are better at controlling it than others. It could be that most people learn to deal with stress in new, less obvious ways or develop other ways to cope with boredom or nervousness. With age comes an awareness of social norms and proper public behavior, so we adopt less public (and therefore more socially acceptable) coping strategies. Plus, some resort to nail biting more frequently than others, so it makes sense that they could abandon it more easily. I wasn’t that much of a nail biter as a kid, but a friend who still bites his nails used to chew them down to nubs when he was younger.
Think About Everything Our Fingers Touch
Part of my escape from onychophagia came with an increased knowledge of just how many germs reside on my hands and underneath my fingernails. After a day of riding public transportation, I barely want to touch myself, let alone put my hands anywhere near my mouth. The area under fingernails is host to dirt, food particles, germs, and a number of other gross items we probably never even consider. All of that is transferred into our mouths as soon as the nails go under our teeth. Just as it’s possible to get pink eye by rubbing your eye with a bacteria-laden finger, you can get sick by putting germy hands into your mouth.
