When Kids Bully, Who’s at Fault?

the problem with bullying is with boys and girls for some weird reasons i will explain them .

if 2 people have been friends for long time etc strong friendship and some other people are jealous they in there mind want the same , and call them gay or lesbians , if someone is in aa possition like that at school , some teens arnt ready yet to come out when they are so they still try to bury that feeling but with bullying it goes to rage cause( people that are bullied are like in theire heads i aint gay i aint ready or i am just not just different ) and those emotions will escalate i will seek to something wanna be normal to people have respect , be a bully and get killed lets throw this trhing to the most extreme , if someone kills bullies i find the bullies that survived responsible for the killings so for the consequences. correct me if im wrong no one believes some people or what ever or its told them they go insane to killings , bullies need the court prisson ventures

My grandson is the most intelligent child in his class. He plays baseball, football, takes karate and plays the violin and excels in everything he does. He was bullied for years, because of jealousy about his achievements. I worked with him to change the way he saw himself and to celebrate his achievements and gifts and not try to shrink to make others feel secure. He still tries to fit in but his self-image has improved immensely, and he is no longer the target of bullies.

I was always one of the thinnest in my class. But I was athletic, had chores to do at home. I was bright. All this gave me confidence, so I seldom ackowledged the bullying, and developed a somewhat wicked tongue to hire back verbal insults. I was never the victim of group bullying. I was even bullyied by my twin.

Any kid can seek out new friends at school, and always should. If real bullying or threatenig behavior appears, tell your teacher, or the principal, or call parents or 9-1-1. Tell the police you were threatened by the person and were afraid they were serious. Even a threat is assault, acting on it is battery. Cal the thugs on it. Embarass the child and his parents. Make the school take action.

But better if kids stick up for each other, and do not tolerate bullying. Its easier if a child has self-confidence. Unfortunately they won't get that sitting on their butt watching TV or playing computer games. Parents, teach your child things, including self-discipline.

My son is 13, is 5'5 and 170lbs. He is a big boy. Needless to say he is picked on. Bullying is never going to stop no matter what happens. I try to teach my son to treat others the way you want to be treated. I also need to say that the bullying doesn't always come from children. My child has experienced it from a teacher
Who he will have again this year. I will do MY BEST to protect him from this evil teacher. I will start with the superintendant before school starts in September. She is well aware. That I am on to her. This year will be different because I will advocate for my child. If I don't nobody else will. Bullying comes in all shapes and sizes and its not just coming from other children. Adults are guilty too.

Unfortunately, Phoebe is not the first nor will she be the last girl to be bullied so much she cannot see past ending her life. Our kids are in danger. We need to teach them at an early age "social norming" skills for social media. Somewhat like we teach our kids to chew with their mouths closed and to use a napkin and not their sleeves, they need to be taught proper behavior on Facebook, chat sites, etc. It's tough deciding the best way to handle this. I agree that the schools need to be more proactive but I think they're so overwhelmed that they're almost frozen. A case was just dismissed against some boys who put up a website disclosing girl's "sexual secrets." The reason for the dismissal was "free speech concerns." Frustrating! Another necessity is to monitor their Internet and cell phone activity. Among many other features, there is a software out that will alert parents via text message if a child is sent a bullying or sexting message. www.mywebsafety.com/dunnllc

This opens a whole can of worms. I think the teachers really should know when a kid is troubled and intervene.

I was bullied in middle school something awful. Thank God that I didn't know what suicide was back then. Sometimes ignorance is bliss.

I can't believe there is so much HATE in these young people's lives. They must grow up with alot of animosity and hate to have to torment Phoebe or torment any other person; physically and mentally. These young people must be held accountable for what they did; they are teenagers and they were fully aware of their bullying tactics. It wasn't a one on one thingy; it was a whole group that bullied her and they were cowards, all cowards. The teachers were aware of this and did nothing until she committed suicide. Showed their lack of care for this one student. Took some tragedy to occur before they react; but its too late. A beautiful young woman, who belongs to a family, is gone. Wonder how the parents of the bullies raise their kids; if they have so much hate in them? Bullying should be classified as "Harassment" and made illegal. I have no pity for these bullies. Show some justice by charging them with a felony to teach other would be bullies. Victims need counseling.

This is a tough call. Saying that the school should control students internet activities outside of school hours is opening up a whole beast of issues and problems. (Phoebe was tormented on a social networking site by her classmates.) I don't think it's fair for parents to shoulder the blame, however it is their job to be openly communicating with their children, monitoring their online activities, and ensuring they have healthy relationships. I don't think bullying can be made illegal, but there is something wrong with the schools and children today and it needs to be addressed.

I agree with The Jezebel Spirit. The adults at school were responsible and should be charged. It's just heartbreaking.