Is It Selfish for a Woman Not to Have Kids?

women are not only born to have a child, they are also born to take care the ones they loved... women has such
a heart that whatever situation she may be a mother or a lover, women can give the best...and will always be the best

God no!!!!

It's always seemed sensible when people realize they don't want to become parents! So many women have had children when they had no maternal skills or desire whatsoever and it's a shame for everyone involved. I'm proud of you for realizing who you are and living life as you please.

No women do not have a duty to have kids, what is this the 50's? In this day and age it is selfish to have kids in this world.

Kids are not a choice, but a gift. You cannot say "I will have kids" nor can you say "I will not have kids." God is the life-giver, husband and wife are his instruments. It the the husband's and wife's duty to follow God's plan of creation. If the wife does not want kids, than it is certain that she should not enter marriage, for children are the fruit of marriage.

No. Absolutely not. End of discussion.

No, it's not selfish for most people...but if you've got great genes, health, and love in your life, why not? So many of us are convinced we need "things" before kids. We need a great resume, a great career, a rolls royce pram and a home with a yard. This is not reality for most of the world!! If you put your career above the love if your heart, then it becomes not selfish, but futile. Think of all the people to whom a baby would bring joy! Then look at a world map-- population is aging and shrinking in many developed countries. India and Brazil are making it happen. Hispanics in the US have it right-- they make babies, they stay together, they have a community, strong families. The grandmothers are the nannies, as it should be!! On a last note, has anyone seen "Idiocracy Let's reverse the trend. Disclaimer: my opinion is biased because my biological clock is ticking!

I have never understood the belief/thought that it is selfish for a woman to not have children. I have never wanted children. I even remember thinking in 5th grade (10 yrs old) that I wasn't going to have kids. I have made this known to in every serious relationship that I have been in. Some didn't work out because the man wanted kids. Currently, my husband and I both agree that children are not the right choice for us. Why would that be selfish? Who is it hurting? I have truly been shocked by the number of people who think this is a selfish decision.

Maybe if a man does want children and his wife doesn't? But then, they should have never married...

Having kids is a personal decision - no one has the right to decide what's right for another. I don't think it's selfish at all to choose to remain childless - in fact, it's a pretty smart decision if you know that parenting is not something you want to be forced into. A truly believe a child knows when they are wanted and loved, and while you may be able to raise a child well, even if you didn't "want" them...there's still something that's missing emotionally in the relationship, however subtle. I applaud women and couples who recognize that parenting is not for them.

Of course not, in fact knowing what we know today about the disaster that overpopulation is creating on our planet I would posit that not having children is a genuine green option. Every child that is born is two more carbon footprints that add to the proble.