I’ve always heard my mother say to me: “You’ll never get a man if you don’t want kids!” I understand that having children is basically considered our point on earth, to keep the species going, but aren’t there enough people doing that already? People have been having babies since the beginning of time, and it’s almost like now its in a woman’s system that her most important purpose in life is to be a mother. Now, being a mother is a title worthy of much respect and adoration, but is it meant for everyone? There are some women who can change the lens of a microscope with no problem, but can’t change a diaper to save their lives. To face the truth, not everyone is cracked up to be a parent. It takes a lot of patience, time, dedication, and love to raise a child. There are people who are willing to give up a lot for the sake of a bundle of joy, but we shouldn’t judge those that aren’t. If your daughter, girlfriend, or wife does not want kids there has to be a good reason for it, here are some of the possibilities.
She doesn’t like kids.
Face it, not everybody likes kids. They have the tendency to make A LOT of noise and be a lot of trouble. Not every woman wants to spend her day washing crayon off the wall or dragging screaming toddlers back into their crib for nap time for the fifth time. There could have been something in her past that caused her to feel uncomfortable around children or she’s just had bad experiences with them before. You should always make sure your girlfriend is on the same page as you when it comes to kids. She may not always be willing to give up her opinion on the matter.
She’s not ready/She doesn’t feel her partner is ready.
Having a child puts a lot of emotional and financial stress on a woman. If she doesn’t believe she can handle it, and she doesn’t believe her partner is capable of helping her, she may not want to consider kids. This doesn’t mean that she doesn’t love you, but she probably doesn’t want to bring a child into this world if she’s not able to provide for it properly. A child is not like that puppy you wanted when you were eight years old and you promised your parents you’d take care of it, and then when you finally got it you let your parents handle it saying you were busy. You can’t be too busy for a kid, and face it, having a kid is a lot of responsibility. If your significant other does not believe either of you can handle it just yet, don’t push her. She probably is trying to have everyone’s best interests at heart.
She is too focused on her career.
Women have fought long and hard for the ability to have equal rights in a society that is dominated by men. Your wife or girlfriend might have fought long and hard to get that executive job that pays so good. Or she really enjoys traveling for work. Don’t expect her to always be willing to sacrifice a good career and her dream life for the sake of starting a family. Remember that men don’t usually quit their jobs to raise the kids, so they may not always know how hard it is. You have to be understanding in a situation like this. If you pressure her into leaving her job in order to be a mother, odds are she may not be happy about it and do as a good a job as she might have if she’d made that choice on her own.
She’s afraid.
This may seem a little ridiculous to you, but men don’t have babies. They don’t spend nine months with an ever expanding belly and then endure hours of painful labor. The “what-ifs” are endless. What if there is a complication? What if I lose the baby? What if it comes to the part where it’s my life or my child’s? And then even after the birth she constantly has to worry about her child’s well-being, her own, her husbands.... It all adds up. The financial stress, the emotional turmoil that is most likely to occur. She may not feel ready for it. It’s only natural for a woman to be afraid. I mean, she’s going to be responsible for another human life. It’s a lot on her plate, pressuring her into the decision when she’s insecure about the choice is not a wise or recommended move.
She’s jealous.
It is a truth universally acknowledged that women love to be the center of attention.
