If you are like me, then you were not born with innate social graces. In fact, you probably think sporks (a fork and a spoon!) are the greatest invention of humankind and that public burping isn’t rude—as long as your eyes are closed when you do it. We are, after all, descendants of apes.
So when that invitation to a dinner party or to a long weekend at someone’s beach home finds its way into your boorish hands, fear not! Becoming a gracious guest is simple, straightforward, and ensures you’ll receive another invite.
The Unflappable Dinner Guest
Because most of our meals are spent with close friends, family, or alone, sometimes the finer points of etiquette are thrown out the window. Here’s how to get them back.
RSVP
- Be prompt in your response. If an RSVP date is not given, then respond within one week of receiving your invitation.
- Never assume you can bring a date (no matter how cool your boyfriend is) or your children (no matter how well behaved those little monsters are). Check with the host first.
- If you have diet limitations (vegan, allergies), let your host know. Offer to bring a dish or to help with the food preparations.
Poised for Party Day
- Dress for the occasion. If you are not sure how to dress, don’t be afraid to check with the host. And try not to wear the same outfit as the host.
- Never arrive early. Always arrive on time or no more than ten minutes late. If you are running more than ten minutes late, call ahead to inform your host.
- Never come empty-handed! Arrive with a gift—flowers, a bottle of wine or champagne, or a box of chocolate.
Meet and Greet with Courtesy
- Be sure to compliment your host on his or her home. It does make a difference.
- Don’t be boring or depressing, unless you are around good friends who are used to it. Engage in lively conversation about current events or pop culture, but never talk about financial woes or physical illness.
- Even though there’s bound to be that one person who rubs you the wrong way—this can include someone’s baby or young child—be respectful and tolerant of other guests.
