Stress is a hot topic these days, especially with the state of the economy, the rise in unemployment, and the notion our financial nest eggs not being as plush as they once were. In my recent article “Internal vs. External Stress: Can You Identify Which One?” I expressed the importance of identifying and adjusting our behaviors to balance our lives to reduce any negative effect stress is having on our physical, mental, and energetic bodies. This is more difficult than most realize. It is much like comparing fingerprints. The more stress points we are able to zoom in or focus on, the better we are able to identify the stress and the more efficient we become at taking corrective actions. These result in being more effective in achieving the balancing act we all seek to maintain. I wanted to provide a case study as an example to help you identify stressors in your life.
Case Study
Jane is struggling with identifying her underlying stressor; she has already identified her main trigger for stress: money issues.
A Brief History:
Jane is forty-three and has been a fifth-grade teacher in the same public school for eighteen years. She loves her position and thrives on seeing her students move on to the next grade every June. However, over the last five years Jane’s weight has increased by five to ten pounds per year, she is on blood pressure medication, and there is a significant history of cardiovascular disease in her family. Currently she is supporting not just herself, but also her husband (who was laid off three months ago) and more recently her daughter Jill (who recently left her husband) and Jill’s two-year-old daughter Jody. Jill works part-time and earns enough to pay her personal bills and necessities for Jody, but nothing more. Jane has always been physically, active including walking and attending a women’s fitness center. She was not truly consistent but averaged one visit per week to the gym and walking twice a week.
What We Know:
After a few coaching sessions, Jane has identified the following three elements as her main external stressors:
- Financial obligations and strain
- Physical weight and overall health
- Job
And three internal stressors:
- An increase in difficulty with climbing stairs; specifically, she’s out of breath
- Pain in her lower back
- Feeling her kick-start of the day has to be at least one if not two or more coffees
What We Don’t Know:
Finding out what we don’t know or have not considered to be affecting Jane’s life is a priority for the next coaching session. Our first step is to put together a list of questions that probe Jane to think outside of her normal thought pattern, nudging her to explore areas that she possibly may not feel comfortable confronting go alone. Through her honest answers we will be able to identify which trigger may be hiding behind another symptom.
Types of Questions
Here are six questions we would try to work into the next session. We will be looking for openings provided by Jane to allow us to ask these, as well as physical body cues to support our belief she is ready to explore. Remember that as coaches we are there to support the client to move themselves into the next phase of their lives, and as such we need to be conscious of their readiness and wiliness to hear and respond to certain questions.
Employment possibilities:
- What are the possibilities or percentage of possibilities your husband will find employment in the next three to six months? Be honest re: his age, health, limited educational experience, etc.
- What about your daughter? What are the possibilities of her finding full-time work?
- What is holding you back from putting yourself first in all of your decisions, such as how you spend your time or what you spend the money you do have on?
