Several months after my puppy dog Grace had been weaned, my children and I took her back so I could speak with the breeder and to visit her mother Sweet Pea. My dog was so excited to see her mother. She jumped all over her and licked her and did whatever she could to get her attention. As it turned out, Sweet Pea could not be bothered. She didn’t acknowledge Grace in any way, shape or form. This behavior rather alarmed my young children; they weren’t expecting Grace to be ignored by her own mother.
This unfortunate relationship reminded me of so many I have known, some personally and some professionally, involving my clients.
I remember a relationship where I was being treated unkindly, but rather than rock the boat, I said nothing, and I grew resentful. Then the negative experiences in the relationship reached a critical mass, and I could no longer ignore the meanness. Although I remember crying hysterically, the quiet observer inside of me felt a distinct clarity, without question I knew it was time to pack up my pearls, go home, and never ever go back.
Spiritually, when we think of going home, we are talking about going back to center; for some this means going back to God. Going home is a healing journey, it is about returning to truth. When I was involved with people who were mean and disrespectful to me, I wasn’t honoring my truth. Moreover, these people were taking up a space in my life, along with energy and attention that might be used to share my pearls with others who would appreciate my gifts and might even encourage me to add pearls to my existing necklace.
Some people wonder why they don’t have loving and supportive people in their lives. Many times these people are courting people who will never understand them or appreciate them. Who knows the reason why and really, who should care?
The truth is we should thank these people. These rejecters are our teachers. They can help us get so uncomfortable that we are forced to take action. Bless them and move on.
