Spilt Milk? Seven Reasons Why Crying Is Good for You

New York Times reporter Benedict Carey referred to tears in a recent piece as “emotional perspiration.” Given that I sweat a lot and hate deodorant, I suppose it makes sense that I weep often. But I’m not going to apologize for that, because after a good cry, I always feel cleansed, like my heart and mind just rubbed each other’s backs in a warm bath.

In his intriguing article, “The Miracle of Tears” (answersingenesis.com), in which I found some of the research for this gallery, author Jerry Bergman writes: “Tears are just one of many miracles which work so well that we taken them for granted every day.”

Here, then, are seven ways tears and the phenomenon we call “crying” heal us physiologically, psychologically, and spiritually.

1. Tears Help Us See
The most basic function of tears is that they enable us to see. Literally. Tears not only lubricate our eyeballs and eyelids, they also prevent dehydration of our various mucous membranes. No lubrication, no eyesight. Writes Jerry Bergman: “Without tears, life would be drastically different for humans—in the short run enormously uncomfortable, and in the long run eyesight would be blocked out altogether.”

2. Tears Kill Bacteria
No need for Clorox wipes. We’ve got tears! Our own antibacterial and antiviral agent working for us, fighting off all the germs we pick up on community computers, shopping carts, public sinks, and all those places the nasty little guys make their homes and procreate.

Tears contain lysozyme, a fluid that the germ-a-phobe dreams about in her sleep, because it can kill 90 to 95 percent of all bacteria in just five to ten minutes! This translates, I’m guessing, to three months’ worth of colds and stomach viruses.

3. Tears Remove Toxins
Biochemist William Frey, who has been researching tears for as long as I’ve been searching for sanity, found in one study that emotional tears—those formed in distress or grief—contained more toxic byproducts than tears of irritation (think onion peeling). Are tears toxic then? 

No! They actually remove toxins from our body that build up courtesy of stress. They are like a natural therapy or massage session, but they cost a lot less!

4. Crying Can Elevate Mood
Do you know what your manganese level is? Neither do I. But chances are that you will feel better if it’s lower because overexposure to manganese can cause bad stuff: anxiety, nervousness, irritability, fatigue, aggression, emotional disturbance, and the rest of the feelings that live inside my head rent-free.

The act of crying can actually lower a person’s manganese level. And just like with the toxins I mentioned in my last point, emotional tears contain 24 percent higher albumin protein concentration—responsible for transporting small (toxic) molecules--than irritation tears.

5. Crying Lowers Stress
Tears really are like perspiration, in that exercising and crying both relieve stress. In his article, Bergman explains that tears remove some of the chemicals built up in the body from stress, like the endorphins leucine-enkaphalin and prolactin. The opposite is true too. Bergman writes, “Suppressing tears increases stress levels, and contributes to diseases aggravated by stress, such as high blood pressure, heart problems, and peptic ulcers.

6. Tears Build Community
In her Science Digest article, writer Ashley Montagu argued that crying not only contributes to good health, but it also builds community. I know what you’re thinking: “Well, yeah, but not the right kind of community. I mean, I might ask the woman bawling her eyes out behind me in church what’s wrong or if I can help her, but I’m certainly not going to invite her to dinner.”

I beg to differ. As a prolific crier, I always come away astounded by the resounding support of people I know, and the level of intimacy exchanged among them. Read for yourselves some of the comments on both my self-esteem file video my death and dying video and you’ll appreciate my point. Tears help communication and foster community.

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12.29.2009
Chantale Reve
I cry more now than at any other point in my life. The reason is: I give myself permission to cry; there's no longer any guilt. I cry mostly when I'm alone, so it's not about needing attention. I do not cry in public (on purpose anyway) because, like the rest of us, I've been socially conditioned not to do. The exceptions to public crying, here in the USA, include: public memorials (whether a pop icon like John Lennon or Michael Jackson, or an influential, well-loved political leader); terrorist attacks and other acts of war (think of people crying in the street on and after "9/11"); in the aftermath of a vehicular accident, when someone or an animal has been hurt or killed; the sight of a homeless person passed out on a sidewalk or huddled on a subway track to keep warm; in a theater as a sad scene is performed in a movie, opera or play. But in our private lives, crying knows no limits and feels good! So the next time someone says you're too insensitive, just say: "No, I'm healthy."
12.22.2009
Swati
@ za Ludlum: I registered just to commiserate with you. I don't know how you could possibly start over, but I do know that's your only hope. Cherish the good times, try to forget the bad times, and miove on. Find something you love that excites you in the same way he used to, but doesn't remind you too much of him.
12.20.2009
Priya
I think theres something wrong with me.. I barely get beyond slightly wet eyes and i've had some things happen to me that I think most would agree are pretty upsetting. I'm not at all trying to say i'm tough or anything because I don't think I am at all. Just wondering if there would be a reason?
12.02.2009
Barbara
I am wading through an emotional loss and find myself crying at times when I am not dwelling upon the issue at all. In line at the store or on the train or walking the dog. I'm not aware of the sadness bubbling to the surface, until the tears make their sudden appearance. It's good to know that this is a release valve...although sometimes I wish I would have more warning.
12.01.2009
za Ludlum
I used to just cry at sad movies or when puppies got hurt. Now I cry because I lost the love of my life, my husband. He was my soft place to fall in life. I miss him so much and the tears are so real today that I can identify with every word. They live in the crevices of my soul right now. Hopefully they will dry and make me feel a little better. But what does a 54 year old woman do without the man she has loved for 30 years? I have no clue how to start over.
It feels good to write.

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