The only real conflict is with in. Our desire to be so completely correct in our convictions, our morals, our truth as we know, understand and see it. Our inability to focus and admit to ourselves total and complete truth is what ultimately causes complete suffocation of ourselves, of our relationships, of our passions, and of our happiness. So we run from it, hide from it, bury it, disguise it however we can but never Deal with it. Eventually it creeps up again in new situations and we repeat the pattern of running, hiding, burying, and disguising until eventually we forced to admit the truth to ourselves or become such total and complete liars that we are completely unable to see, come to terms with and handle our own emotions.
Once we come to terms with it we can heal. We can mourn all the loses it has created, we can repair and greatly improve ones in need of our attention. Only then do we truly go forward in our lives.
We are so opposed to feeling that we often think ourselves to death. For me I have found that to say “ I feel …” Is so much better than “ I think … ”. The truth comes clear when we allow ourselves to feel. We don’t really “think” someone is sad, we feel it. We don’t think someone is happy, we feel it. We don’t think there is anger; we feel it. How many conversations and situations would have gone differently in your life if you had simply said I feel instead of I think?
We must be willing to tell others when they hurt our feelings. In an honest caring way. Too much anger is misguided and misdirected when really it is only our feelings that are hurt.
Allowing ourselves to feel allows us to heal. We learn to recognize things for what they truly are and not what we THINK they are. We can work out our feelings and make decisions based on actual emotions.
I know these things are true for me. Please don’t think I am conflict free. I deal with it everyday and have learned to give it to the universe and recognize when I am not doing so completely. Only when we are capable of dealing with conflict in ourselves, can we deal with it from other sources in our lives.
I have recently started to replace the word think, with the word feel in statements about myself and my life. I am finding that I am more honest with myself and making quicker, better decisions that I feel better about overall. I am also able to deal with things I am waking easier, earlier, and full of energy.
When we use the word “feel” instead of “think” in statements we feel a sense of empowerment because we take ownership of our actions through our own feelings. We are better able to come to terms with ourselves as a whole. Our actions, our emotions, our relationships, both with others and ourselves, and life overall, improve. We deal with situations on the correct level and therefore make better choices. We are better able to combine our needs and wants.
Our feelings change sometimes minute to minute, and we are constantly faced with opinions and judgments based on our previous selves, even by our own selves. We have to allow that feelings, opinions, and decisions that were once correct for us can and do change as we grow.
Try replacing I think, with I FEEL in situations in your life and see how it goes. I have found a stronger understanding of who I am, and how my emotions work for me.
