A friend of mine recently found out that her mom’s foster son was molesting her daughter and his foster sister as well. He is thirteen years old. He had been doing it for four years. My friend’s daughter is seven. Can you imagine the horror? Not only for the victims ... the two little innocent girls, but the little boy as well, who is now marked for the rest of his life as a sexual predator. Having experienced this with my daughter, which I’ve written about before, I knew the pain she was feeling, and she is actually handling it quite well. You can’t go back in time ... only forward and learn from the experiences that occur. God will not put something into our lives that we can’t handle. She says that she will handle this the best way she can, with support from her family. Her daughter will come out stronger because of it, and maybe have the opportunity to help someone later on down the line who isn’t as strong. That is what my mission is. I want to let moms who have been through this either themselves or with their children that it is okay to feel angry, and it is okay to feel confused. It’s part of the grieving process. Just know that there are people who have experienced the same thing, and are more than willing to listen, and be here if you want to talk about it! Let’s educate our children ... because even if you think it could never happen to you or your child ... it just might. Be prepared. Let’s educate our children, so they will know what to do in instances where they are put in situations that could compromise their principles or compromise their safety. Don’t wait for it to happen and then work on backtracking to see what you could have done. I’m just saying I think as parents, big sisters, big brothers, friends ... whatever ... we need to make kids aware that it’s okay to talk about it, and it’s okay to have those feelings. We need to encourage them to discuss with us their options and choices even if they do feel embarrassed at first ... We can only prevent further hurt, embarrassment, disease, and sometimes rape or molestation.
