Replacing Loss

Sometimes I want to escape reality and daydream those dreams you know won’t come true. But you still try to picture things because you know at least in daydreams it does come true. Like the scenes you see in movies, or in any TV series you are currently addicted to.

I am not living in a perfect life, a perfect world, with the perfect people who adore and shower me with love. I have had my fill of emptiness, mistakes, regrets, and experiences that are not so perfect and far from nice at all.

This is the real world and as they say, you have to deal with things; you have to move on and accept, put it in the past, and wake up every day as if nothing’s happened. I have done this so many times, but every time I get quiet time for myself, sometimes I crack up.

A loss. A loss can be a very easy or hard thing to accept. A loss of a pet, a loss of your favorite book, lost ID, lost pen, lost money. We all lose things almost every day. We get pissed off and sometimes sad because what we lost was valuable, whether it be because it was expensive or because it was given to you by a friend, an acquaintance, a sister, or a brother. But eventually, like in most cases, you get over it because you know you can always ask or buy another one.

How about a lost life? How about a lost loved one? Is it like a lost pen—when you lose one, you go to a store to buy a replacement? And tell me, is a broken heart fixable, like a broken bone? Do you call a doctor and get it fixed, and after a while, it will be fine again? Like a beautifully crafted glass that was cracked, it may still be beautiful, but the crack will forever be there.

A lost pen, a lost friend, a lost father, lost chances, lost opportunities. How many things do you have to lose in this life? And tell me, how many things, like a lost pen, can ever be totally replaced?

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12.19.2008
Ann
Madellaine, I am very sorry for your loss. My thoughts go out to you. I hope you have found a way to deal with your loss. I lost my mother in a tragic way and I still struggle to find peace. I guess it's about perspective. I thought that losing my mother was the saddest event in my life and then I lost an animal very recently who I dearly loved and I can't stop crying. That was the only point I was trying to make when I commented on your article. Grief knows no boundaries. We all mourn in different ways for different reasons. Peace and happy holidays to you.
Ann, well I'm sorry if you find my article misleading or wrong in any way. i wrote this when my father was shot to death last June. I was lost in my grief and maybe did not think straight. so whatever interpretations you may have i will respect that and I'm sorry for my naivety.
12.18.2008
Ann
Losing a pet is nothing like losing a pen. I think the comparison is ridiculous. I just lost my pet from cancer and there is nothing trivial about what I'm feeling or what my pet went through; and it was certainly nothing that I could "get over because I knew I could buy another." I'm sure millions of pet lovers would agree with me. I think the comparison of losing a pet to losing something insignificant like a pen or a book is highly insensitive. I'm hoping that I'm misreading your article, especially if your article is geared toward helping people deal with loss.
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