Are You Equal Yet?

“You’ve come a long way, baby!” was a cigarette ad that peppered magazines some time ago. Born in 1965, I witnessed some awesome, dumfounding, and necessary social changes that occurred over the years. As a child, I saw on our black and white TV bra burning protests featured on the news.

I saw women fight for their equal rights. “Equal pay for equal work,” ERA, the single mother, the working woman, sexual discrimination, sexual harassment, birth control, abortion, and so on, these issues are just as important today as they have ever been. As a result, I was raised in both the “old” and the “new” schools.

The old school is something like this: The man is the bread winner, supports his family and is king of the castle. The woman stays home and tends to the kids, the kitchen, and especially the man. Today it is called Traditional Roles. I had a stay-at-home mom until about 1972. At the point she started her career, both of my parents worked. That was the new school.

The new school, as best as I can tell, is something like this: Work is shared, marriage is a partnership, and the entire family contributes to the needs of the family. Did I get that right, or has it changed since? New school or not, while working, my mother STILL took care of the kids and the kitchen, and tended to dad. Well, we have come a long way, but we still have a ways to go.

In 2004, my fifteen–year-old son invited three very pretty young ladies to lunch. I veered the conversation toward career and education. They were all in high school, and would be graduating sooner than they thought, so the conversation seemed relevant.
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11.27.2009
John
Just catching up on comments. Thank you Linda anf Jackie for reading my article and leaving comments. It is so cool that someone out there reads my stuff. :-)
11.27.2009
John
Thanks, Janice! That's quite a compliment!
11.26.2009
Janice Toepfer
Amen. I think you are correct on all counts. Damn good article.
11.10.2009
Jackie
John, Thank you for writing this. I came to this country 28 years ago based on this assumption that there are opportunity in America for me to achieve a career, an independent life that I can make my own money and decision on my own life, not barefoot and pregnant. I have been married for 20 years to a wonderful man who share the same perspective about how women should be equally treated. I have a daughter who is in her freshman year getting an engineering degree. Cute boys are nice but Cute boys who also respect smart girls are better.
11.10.2009
Linda Medrano
John, this is not just a good article; it's an important one. I would think it should be mandatory reading in high schools. Seriously! When I graduated from high school in the 1960's, none of the females I knew went on to college. We went on to low paying jobs and waited for "Mr. Right" to come along and marry us. I was divorced at 24 and had two children to support. I tried my damnedest to make sure my kids were more educated than I had been, because I knew the road would be rocky if they followed in my path. I went to college at night beginning at age 30 and my business administration degree did open doors that had been closed to me before. You make some wonderful points, but don't get too seriously concerned about the 15 year olds comments to you. They were being "cute" for your son.
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