Give yourself the gift of truth and find out how your pleasing behaviors are affecting your self-esteem and self-confidence.
Guess what? Any mistake can be good when it helps lead you to learn more about truth and your true self. Truth is like a clean window that lets in light and allows you to see more clearly. The truth is this nothing and no one can give you self-esteem and acceptance—only yourself. Real self-confidence and self-esteem always comes from within. It’s a gift you give yourself.
A Tool to Find Out What Kind of Pleaser You Might Be?
Answering the following questions may give you insights into your behaviors. Answer with the first thing that pops into your mind. If you change it you are second guessing yourself and that is being dishonest with yourself.
If you can take it a step further circle which ones you want to change.
Take the quiz and answer as follows:
1. “That’s me.”
2. “That’s me sometimes and sometimes not.”
3. “No not me, but there are some similarities.”
4. “That’s not really me.”
5. “No not me.”
______1. I feel insecure and not very confident much of the time.
______2. I feel I have to “walk on eggshells” to keep everyone from getting angry.
______3. My father was distant or unloving most of the time.
______4. When I’m at the grocery store and shorted a penny or two on change, I don’t ask for it.
______5. I feel overpowered by my husband, boyfriend, or fiancé’.
______6. I feel I really can’t do most things right.
______7. I’m always saying, “I should have, I ought to … ”
______8. My husband and children know how to make me feel guilty.
______9. I feel like hiding, running away, not dealing with things.
______10. I don’t like confrontations. They’re just too unpleasant.
______11. I often fake it and tell others I like what they’re doing or saying when I really don’t.
______12. If I try on six or seven pairs of shoes at the store, I feel I’m obligated to buy at least one pair.
