Laugh Out Loud (LOL) is an acronym constantly used via text, email, and of course facebook. I often use it, and abuse it within the contexts of my personal and business communications. As of late, I have begun to use it as a “buffer.” I often use it in the beginning, and or end of a gentle personal or professional critic.
If my beau fails to call me back in a timely manner; I will use it. I will text things like, “Hey, did you get my call? I was on my way to Milan. LOL.” But, I really want to say, “Why didn’t you call me back? What is more important than me?”
Or, if I am asking a direct question, but not trying to sound pushy I will use it: “I am really on a tight deadline. Can you drop off the research books this year? LOL?” I truly want to say, “If you want me to finish this story for your company you are going to have to bring me adequate research. I need the books today.”
But, for some reason, I like to beat around the bush and pussyfoot about what I really want. I’m not sure if it’s right or wrong. All the gender study books advise that it is just the conditioned nature of a woman to not ask and be coy about what she desires. That is precisely why women still make less than men in the same job. But, there are millions of men who do it as well. We all use it in some form or fashion.
I thought LOL was working very well for me. It really is the ultimate communication buffer. I typically get what I want when I use it, but I’m beginning to think maybe I will get a better response being upfront and detached from the rejection associated with the answer NO. The more I self analyze, I realize I am always laughing about something in general conversation. But, my laughter warms up when I am nervous or shy. I will even laugh if I am at a loss of words or upset.
I met with a colleague recently and she said she wishes more people would ask for what they want. Time would be less wasted and people would know what direction to take their personal and business ambitions. Her words struck me. Should I let go of the LOL buffer I so graciously use in my communication dealings?
I believe there is a time and place for LOL. It is my communication blankie but as I mature and my life grows I find that being direct may be a better route in some instances … LOL!
