How many words do you speak during an average day? No, I am not talking about text messages, emails, or slang chatroom words, I am talking about words that actually come out of your mouth.
The average figure is 16,000 words. Even then, much of what we say can be meaningless chit-chat, brisk, necessary exchanges or even angry rants. Here are ten things that we could all do with saying more often. While reading, I’ll bet you believe the list is pretty simplistic. However, the positive impact they will have on your mood and your day is pretty dramatic.
1. “Hello.”
How often do you sit silently next to someone on a train, or in a waiting room? How often do you stand tapping your foot in a line at the post office or bank? Just saying a simple “Hello” or “Hi” to the person next to you, and offering them a smile, could give you an instant mood-boost. And you might even get into a conversation to pass the time while you’re waiting.
2. “Thank you.”
It’s hard to say “thank you” too often. Even when you feel someone’s performing a service that they should do by the nature of their job, thanking them will make both of you feel good. How about saying “thank you” to your employees or subordinates when they carry out a task for you, “thank you” to the girl at the checkout when she packs your bags for you, “thank you” to the waiter who brings your meals? Those two small words of gratitude can mean a lot.
3. “Please.”
A word, which we often associate with “thank you,” perhaps because we were taught to say both as young children, is “please.” Using this little word turns a demand into a request—and makes people much happier about fulfilling it. When you queue up for a coffee at Starbucks, don’t just bark “Venti Mocha Frappuccino” at the barista. Add a “please.” When asking your partner to pass the salt at dinner, put in that “please.” It doesn’t just set a great example for your kids, it sets a tone of politeness and mutual respect.
4. “Here, take my seat.”
Most of us are lucky enough to be fairly able-bodied and can easily stand on trains and buses without risking falling over. If you see someone elderly, pregnant, or struggling in any way (perhaps a mother with a small child), offer them your seat. If you’re worried you’ll accidentally offend them, add a “I’m getting off soon” or something slightly jokey like “I could do with stretching my legs.”
5. “This one’s on me.”
Out for drinks with a friend or acquaintance? Rather than insisting on splitting the bill straight down the middle, offer to buy for both of you. It’s nice to feel generous, and to feel that you’re receiving a gift and your friend can reciprocate next time, if he or she wants. A note of caution: if you are a lot better off financially than your drinking partner, be sensitive about this.
6. “Let me help you with that.”
If you see someone struggling, offer to help. They may rebuff you, but most people will be touched and grateful. You’ll get to make their day a little bit easier, which will put a dash of joy into yours. You might offer to help someone who’s:
- Struggling with getting a wheelchair up or down steps
- Lifting heavy luggage onto a train
- Carrying an overladen tray across a cafe
- Having difficulties reading a notice or leaflet
- Keep an eye out for other situations where you can make yourself useful!
7. “I don’t think we’ve met. I’m (name).”
Many of us aren’t great at introducing ourselves. If you meet someone new, don’t just mumble about the weather or say nothing but “Hi”; tell them your name and ask theirs. It’s awkward to talk to someone for ten minutes before having to say “Sorry, I didn’t catch your name,” so be confident and upfront when meeting new people.
