Dropping the C-Word

Why is there still so much taboo around the word *unt? Perhaps culturally we still think of it as a curse word, an insult to all women, and a vulgar obscenity. But consider how much a woman’s body has often been deemed obscene historically. Why must an insult remain one? If we’re not ready to use the C-word, can we at least consider the context in which the word is used before we cower and apologize for it?

The networks are not ready to embrace the C-word—even when it’s used in context; they apparently can’t tell the difference. Jane Fonda was asked by Today Show host Meredith Vieira about her involvement with The Vagina Monologues, an award-winning play by Eve Ensler, which celebrates women’s bodies. Fonda responded: “It wasn’t that I wasn’t a big fan of the play. I hadn’t seen the play. I live in Georgia, okay, I was asked to do a monologue called ‘The Cunt’ and I said, ‘I don’t think so. I’ve got enough problems.’” NBC was quick to apologize to the world, claiming that it was a “slip!” Fonda did not use the word in a hostile or insulting way; she simply referred to the name of the monologue.

Given the popularity of The Vagina Monologues this will pass. What worries me is that Americans are still terribly uncomfortable with their bodies—especially women’s bodies.

What is it about our cultural discomfort with the female body that the language we use to describe it becomes degraded? Women’s body parts are deemed disgusting (and routinely slashed, beaten, murdered, and cut up in television and film), and to prove toughness or masculinity (men and women alike), we use terms from the female body to insult someone: If you can’t compete, you’re a “pussy.” If you get bossed around by your wife, girlfriend, or partner, you’re “pussy-whipped.”

And if you’re a powerful woman in the public eye, watch out. The issues you espouse as well as your career experience, education, and know-how will all be tossed to the side. Don’t think you’re going to get away with anything or be too powerful; we don’t like bitches. At a campaign event in South Carolina, a female McCain backer asked the senator, “How do we beat the bitch?” to which he responded, “That’s an excellent question.” It would have been a perfect opportunity for him to handle it with grace and rise above this woman’s idiocy, but he failed. Chris Matthews claimed that Hillary Clinton’s career as a senator was tied to the fact that Bill had cheated: “The reason she’s a U.S. senator, the reason she’s a candidate for president, the reason she may be a front-runner is her husband messed around.” Only after public outcry from groups like the National Organization for Women, Feminist Majority, and the National Women’s Political Caucus did he finally apologize. David Shuster also lashed out at the Clintons, claiming they were pimping out Chelsea. (Of course Bush’s children Barbara and Jenna campaigned for him years earlier, which some commentators have rightfully jumped in to argue.) A conservative group against Hillary Clinton came out with a non-clever campaign of calling her the C-word. Meanwhile in malls across the country, you can buy a t-shirt by this conservative group who further degrades Hillary—and all women. Despite who we ultimately choose to vote or work for, the rules for powerful women continue to be different.

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01.13.2011
Kathy Walker
I have always been frustrated that there is not a word to use to describe the female sex organs. Vagina does not get it because that is the name for the part that is internal. Maybe I am being nit-picking but nothing really feels right to me. Vulva is more technically correct for the parts we see but that feels awkward. I would love to hear what other women think on this subject. I hate it when professional use the term "down there". On the TV show "The Doctors", they wimp out all the time and use this phrase for male and female. We really need a better way to talk about this.
01.11.2011
Deas Plant
Hi, Folks. I would add one new thought here. There is an old and, I believe, very true saying that what one person might say - or think - about another actually says more about the speaker/thinker than it does about the subject. As regards the word itself, it is just that, a word. The only power that word or any other has is just what each individual chooses to give it. From Hamlet: "There is no right or wrong but thinking makes it so." Ladies, if YOU respect and honor your own genitalia and your own sexuality and you are secure in that respect and honor, then what anybody might say or think about your genitalia and/or your sexuality ought not to matter. See paragraph one. t is a word that I choose not to use anywhere but especially not in mixed company. I make this choice not because I personally find the word itself objectionable but rather because so many women are offended by it and I don't wish to encourage men to offend women by using it. Just my 0.02.
01.02.2011
Chico
I think there are nicer words to describe that part of the female body that aren't offensive sounding, I know I'm not comfortable referring to women using the C word in a group of men so I would cringe if someone used the word among women, I just think the word is offensive. I don't generally engage in conversations with women where words referring to their genitalia would come up so really it's a non issue.
12.28.2010
Barb L
That word is about the only expletive that I hate. It is loathesome. It's pretty generally loathesome, anyway, what bad use humans make of sexuality.
12.27.2010
Maria
I never thought anything of that word. However it has never been in my vocabulary. The only words I use for my "coochie" is Pussy or Vagina, lol. And by the way female Porn stars are the only people who use the word Cunt freely, why is that? lol
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