As someone who is very interested in human nature, I find it fascinating to see how people perceive their world. At least in some ways, all people identify with some groups and some particular thought patterns. We all have at least a couple of these groups that we identify with very strongly, if not militantly! We may strongly identify ourselves as being part of one or more of the following groups. Here is a partial list (a complete list would go on ad infinitum):
- Democrat
- Republican
- Libertarian
- Rich
- Working class
- Middle class
- Poor
- Married
- Single
- Divorced
- Swinger
- Lover
- American
- Nationalist
- Citizen
- Undocumented Worker
- Sybaritic
- Idealist
- Realist
- Lazy
- Hard-worker
- Parent
- Someone consciously choosing not to have children
- Fun Loving
- Serious
- Sexually Active
- Virgin
- Introvert
- Extrovert
- Religious
- Spiritual
- Agnostic
- Atheist
- Organic food eater
- McDonald’s devotee
Because most of us are compartmentalizing our world so that we can make sense of it, give meaning to our lives, and find our place in it, identifying with any particular group is not inherently problematic. Of course, if we are identifying with a group that is based on cruelty or hate, it is problematic.
Groups such as the Nazis, child abusers/pornographers, or pro-slavery movements are clearly, inherently, and deeply perverse and unsound. The ethical nature of some groups may be less clear than the aforementioned. Those who identify with groups such as the pro-choice or anti-abortion movements, meat eaters, or pro-war or anti-war movements may be muddy morally for some. For the sake of discussion, I will leave those more controversial group identifications on the back burner for today.
The beauty of recognizing who the “other” is in your world is that you now have a chance to heal that perception and love yourself and others more profoundly. If we are really spiritually one, loving your sisters regardless of their identifications seems to be essential in getting off the karmic wheel. Most of us are committed to loving more deeply.
Loving our world’s “other” may be a step in our spiritual journey that will take us to a more profound level of spiritual development. In fact, someone who has an opposing view or group identification offers us the ability, through contrast, to arrive at a clearer understanding of ourselves and our viewpoints. For example, if we alienate others because they have a different religious belief than we do, we lose the opportunity to understand another powerful point of view. We can’t enjoy a spirited debate and certainly not a nice meal afterwards!
