You know, I have to say as a woman here, this is known to be prevalent of being a woman’s site. I came on with expectations of feeling at least comfortable to write whatever I feel, or tell and share the stories and issues that I have encountered in my lifetime.
When you first come on, you don’t know exactly how it works; at least, that was the way it was for me. I did post articles, but in areas that were I guess the appropriate subjects. I hadn’t noticed the other areas of Divine, having the same practical areas for people having the same practical issues. Well, far from practical, I guess; if they had been practical, they would be in the right place.
You go along and you meet people and because of the exclusiveness abusive situations can leave you in, a person can easily dwell into a computer looking up all sorts of information and just wanting to know what is out there. You study and research and look into things because you just care, and especially for the harsh treatment of women in this world, for me it was in particular Afghanistan. Then, I read the stories of Iraq; it’s all just so frankly unbelievable.
Because it was unbelievable, I made a point to do a lot of research and to make sure my information was correct because I also know the damage that can be done to others from people calling “wolf,” as the old saying goes.
I have to say my experience in sharing the things I knew to women, just because they are, well actually, it would be unfair to the Democratic Party to call them Democrats, but it was really unbelievable, too.
I was called a liar by one I grew to trust to at least be objective because she got mad at me one day for misquoting myself. I had written a comment of a story. I guess the comment sections on here have spell check for some, but not for mine. I don’t know why it doesn’t work, but it just doesn’t.
Anyway, I had spelled “spelt” and I was so frustrated by constantly being told no one will take any of my posts seriously unless I spelled everything correctly, so when one of the ladies replied back to me in CAPS saying it is spelled “spelled,” I really just about had it. So I went to my online dictionary and looked it up because I believed I had originally spelled it correctly. It turned out that both of us were correct and I went back to inform the lady that I looked it up under spell check and it was in fact spelled that way.
What I hadn’t realized is my terminology, using the term spell check instead of online dictionary, so I explained this, and the same lady went to the dictionary, looked up spelt, and when she looked it up, she found it is some sort of German grain or something. That was beside the point, but then she immediately came back at me and cut and pasted the find from the online dictionary. She was correct. What had happened is when she had challenged me in the first place, I was like, okay I just have to know, and I put in the word spelled, as she told me this was the correct spelling. When you put in the word spelled, it shows you the various ways of spelling the term “spell,” and sure enough spelt was also included.
I just couldn’t get the explicit anger over a stupid word; they knew what I meant. I know the importance of good grammar, but let’s face it, many of us do use the spell check feature quite regularly. As it is I can’t even check my spelling of my stories on Divine, so I do them through Word and then copy and paste, so at least they do come out spelled correctly. I do like to do that.
