My husband and I have viewed quite a few sex education videos, and this DVD is now one of our favorites. It’s 30 minutes long and is chocked full of information. It is preceded by Part 1: Introducing Deliberate Orgasm, which is highly recommended as it lays the ground work for part 2. For instance, what Deliberate Orgasm is, and how to do it.

The DVD includes: An introduction to the Welcomed Consensus (see end of review), an informational section on our cultures limited view of sexuality, an alternative definition of orgasm that includes more of our experiences, 3 steps to experience orgasm at the first touch, and a demonstration of Deliberate Orgasm (DOing) with these steps specifically outlined.  It also shows interviews with people who practice Deliberate Orgasm, and special features with headings such as “Getting into the bedroom” and “Enjoying each moment.” Like I said, it’s chocked full.

Before the demonstration: The instructor describes things that most people do that takes away from the sensation they could be feeling. In general, our minds are wandering and the thoughts we do have about the situation is not necessarily making it better.

Time to get down to business: The 3 steps are used by both people and show you how to focus, feel more of what is happening in the moment, and how to do this from the first touch. The same demonstration is actually shown twice. The first time includes an overview of the steps, and the second has a detailed voiceover of when and how both people are using each step. This is very helpful. One of the key concepts in Deliberate Orgasm is to approval, and the instructor also talks about how you can use approval to feel more. By the end of the demonstration I felt like we both knew everything we needed to know to give it a try. 

But wait, there is more: The couples interviewed describe Deliberate Orgasm as a practice that adds to their other sex acts. They talked about feeling connected to their partner and a sense of playfulness in their relationship. They said that they experience a wider range of sensations, and feel sexually gratified, powerful and confident in their lives. I was sold by the end of the first demonstration, but the clincher for my husband was when one of the men, Dennis, said that he thought all guys wanted to hang out with a happy woman, and Deliberate Orgasm was the best way he knows to make his woman happy.