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Lies, Lies, Lies: How Are You Fooling Yourself?

A white wedding dress, the toupee, and New Year’s resolutions. Certain lies need no explanation, but is a padded bra really lying? I suppose it’s just false advertising, or “doing the best with what you’ve got” depending how you lie to yourself about it. Botox, “natural make-up,” and let’s just face it, Snackwells. “I’ll start on Monday,” laughing at a knock-knock joke, tinted eyelashes, an orange tan, and Canal Street. “Just five more minutes,” “I’m fine,” and “What bald spot?” Spanx, Lip Venom, and platform heels. “It’s homemade,” “I was just about to,” and “Yeah, it’s the hardest I’ve ever felt.” “I never lie.”

In my newest book, Moose: A Memoir of Fat Camp, I reveal the ways I’ve lied in my life, and not surprisingly, it’s not only about the lies we tell to others but the lies we tell ourselves.

Sometimes the falsehoods are more intricate, revealing insecurities at play, or our fear of what others may think of us. Have you ever stopped to consider what kind of lies you tell? What types of secrets you agree to keep for others, and what that says about you?

The giveaway ended August 1st, but you can still add your story to this chit chat. Look for more giveaways soon and stand by for an announcement about our winner.

08.01.2008 Report
If someone asks how i feel i usually say wonderful. wether i do or not.
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I can't stand liars, so I try not to be something I can't stand. Makes sense, right? There are ways to tell the truth and still be kind.
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LIES ALWAYS COME BACK TO MAKE YOUR LIFE MISERABLE. SILENCE IS BETTER. TRUTH IS BEST.
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I lie when people ask me how I am. I tell them I am fine when I am not. If they are a close friend or family member then I share the truth. A lot of people don't always want to hear the truth.
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I lied to myself by believing what my (ex) husband told me instead of listening to my head.
08.01.2008 Report
I really don't think of myself as much of a liar. I suppose I don't see the point in saying mean or hurtful things just so I can say I'm being "honest."
08.01.2008 Report
I have a bad habit of making up (probably flimsy-sounding) excuses to get out of obligations I probably shouldn't have committed myself to in the first place. I am starting to learn that being direct and honest with others about instead of being agreeable just for the sake of avoiding conflict is the better approach, and that lying and breaking commitments only gets me in trouble (and causes more conflict) in the end.
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I color my hair, changing it frequently - but I don't think I am lying to myself or anyone else. I can be brutally blunt at times. I see more flaws in myself than others do, while I tend to give everyone else a lot of leeway.
08.01.2008 Report
To Thine Own Self Be True!
08.01.2008 Report
if a lie is coloring my hair to hide the gray then I lie every 6 weeks as for little white lies a lie is a lie ...then there are parents who tell their kids that lying is bad and then lie to them and tell them that shots dont hurt or if you dont behave the police will come get you isnt a lie a lie how can you teach kids when you do what you say is bad
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