So I’ve been going through a real tough patch pretty much this whole year; I can’t seem to find the upside. I want to state this, then tell you my story about what great advice I’ve gotten from a place I didn’t expect it.
To start, I got out of two bad relationships in the last year, leaving me broke and bunking with my best friend. So here I am now: broke, behind on every bill, on the verge of losing my car, school to do medical assisting, not knowing what I am going to do about finances or living conditions, but gonna try no matter what.
So far, that is the only thing that is going good until later; I meet a guy in the most unlikely way and bunking with a friend because I am just drowning in debt. In the midst of all this, I however found motivation to go back to. Either way here, I am sitting on my friend’s couch trying to be quiet as this is not my own home, talking to this new guy, this person that I met. We’ve been on one date so far (on Christmas of all things) and I’m trying hard to be vague, I’ve always done good supporting myself, having money to spend not a lot but still having, and six months ago had a great apartment and was living alone with no issue. At last that question, “So where do you stay then?” Trust me, I didn’t really want to answer, because if I did, that meant having to go over the whole story and explain, “This is so not me, I am better.” Talk about pride. So I tell him the truth. Well, this guy is great; I don’t want to lie. At once he can tell there is insecurity in my voice and even points it out. He was kind though, and acted as if hey it happens don’t feel bad. Then he asks, “Do you watch Tiger Woods play golf?” (I know there has been not so great stuff about him lately but this has nothing to do with him as a person, so please, no one get upset that I use him as an example in the article.) I said, “No, I don’t.” He goes on, “so I’ve been watching a lot of golf for some reason and I’ve noticed how he plays.” He says you can never just come up in a straight line. Ok … lines, got it, umm…. Then he goes on to say Tiger Woods plays great but always gets himself stuck in the sand, and everyone around him thinks, “Great! this is our chance to have up on him.” He says somehow every time he comes out of that hole in the sand, he does it so well, he gets further ahead then any one. It’s not how you get in that sand, it’s about how great the efforts you put forth to get out. Putting great efforts is your time to shine. You will come flying out of that hole better then you went going in; it’s what you do with yourself and that time while in the sand that counts.
With all that being said, I feel like I have inspiration to want to do as good as I can while in this sad pit of mine. It’s an opportunity to show my colors, not my faults.
