Are you a single woman over forty who is smart, independent, and thinking there are no good men out there? I hope you don’t mind my saying this: you are w-r-o-n-g.
As a dating and relationship coach—and a woman who was a first‑time bride at forty-seven—I’m quite aware of what we tell ourselves:
Men can’t handle smart, powerful women … I’m not going to change just to snag a man … I’m going to wait for the man who accepts me just the way I am. He’ll come along.
Sound familiar at all?
These were my mantras for years. I hung on to them nice and tight until I realized that they were myths. The truth was out there plain as day but, as we do with so many beliefs, I simply refused contrary evidence.
One of those myths is that your fierce independence and being set in your ways keeps you from finding love.
Allow me to share some of my story.
Until I became a bride at forty-seven, I planned everything in my life, supported myself, made all my decisions, and created the lifestyle I wanted.
No one told me how to think or feel.
Compromise wasn’t something I had to do.
I didn’t owe anyone anything, so no one was the boss of me.
I was successful and charted my own path.
