You’ve been working on your wardrobe, got over your summer fling, and survived the anxiety that comes with the annual wedding rush. So you put down the money to renew your online dating subscription, made sure to upload new and hotter photos of yourself, and even had a friend edit your personal profile.
But suddenly it’s almost New Years and you’re still fantasizing about woulda/shoulda/coulda, feeling sorry for yourself, and scheduling clandestine rendezvous with your DVR.
Stop chastising yourself! Online dating is a game and chances are you are not playing it right. So in order to find the perfect pick, here are the rules of engagement:
1. Learn not to take it personally.
You simply cannot let a few unnoticed pokes or a series of bad first dates send you into a tail spin. Yes, rejection is difficult. But is it rejection when you don’t even know the person on the other side of the screen? And if a person decides to blow you off after one evening of cocktails, do you really know what’s going on in their head? So don’t waste time writing their story when you could be working on your own.
If you take a step back you will realize it is not a reflection of what you look like, how much you make, or where you live. It all boils down to one thing and one thing only … and that’s timing. What’s important to remember is that each person you meet brings you one step closer to the person with whom you are meant to be.
2. Find the right spot to settle down.
Many singles gravitate to the most popular sites without realizing that profiles can get lost or overlooked in the highly trafficked dating destinations. You are more likely to find success by sticking to smaller, niche sites whose members meet your search criteria right off the bat.
To find a spot that’s right for you, stick with what you know (skills, interests, education, or career), where you are (age, location, or life stage specific), and/or what matters to you (the environment, fitness, religion). And whether you’re looking for a super tall mate or want to canoodle with a Star Trek fan, chances are you will come across a dating Web site that’s ideally suited for you.
