You know it’s happened to you; that friend of a friend who you don’t know very well tracks you down, suggests “everyone” gets together sometime soon, and before you know it—wham! The sneak attack.
Except I totally saw it coming … sort of.
I’m a female who happens to work in the sports industry, so I happen to have a lot of male friends. I’m used to platonic relationships with males. I also happen to being very unassuming when it comes to the people I don’t know well yet. I tend to believe that they mean what they say.
The other day I was Facebooked (is that an actual term yet, by the way?) by a friend of one of my friends—both are male. We’ve all hung out together so I thought nothing of it. Soon enough he’d managed to get my cell phone number and extract a promise that we’d hang out within the next few days. By “we” I thought he meant more than just he and I. I was incorrect.
Even after I knew it was going to end up just being the two of us, I tried not to jump to conclusions. After all, he’d never given me any indication before that he saw me as more than a friendly acquaintance.
We met up last night at a local bar (What? I live in Vegas. That’s pretty much all we have to do here) and I enjoyed myself. Really, it was a great time. In a friend-type way. Apparently only half of us were on that page, though.
I really dislike being blindsided like that. I realize that I should’ve given a little more credit to the bells chiming in my head, but I wanted to be fair. Is that so wrong? I think not.
He’s a nice person and I had a good time, but that’s where it ends. The problem is, I have an inkling that again, I’m the only one who sees it that way. I’m not confrontational, therefore I would prefer to avoid talking about it all if I can. But can I?
The sneak attack—completely and utterly unfair. It’s going to be the undoing of well-meaning women (and men) everywhere.
