I recently posted on Divine Caroline about asking a man out on a second date after waiting for him to do it first.
Well, a reader named Bonnie, a single mom who has since remarried a single dad, responded with a very frank comment:
“The man who will be worth your time … will pick up the phone. No text, no email,” she wrote. “Or, he will just come over to see you because he will put you at the top of the list.”
“Take this from a gal who always got the call or visit from a very busy attorney. Your time, love, and energy are precious gifts, so don’t ever waste them waiting or fretting over a guy who didn’t call.”
Then Bonnie went onto suggest that I write my next post, “on expectations for love. How do you want to be treated in your next relationship? What do you deserve?”
Yes, what do you deserve?
I imagine being with a man who will help me carry my heavy baggage; I’ll help him carry his. A man who gets my dry sense of humor. A man who holds my hand, not just physically. What do you imagine?
There must be something in the blogosphere, because Terry at Happy Girl Musing recently offered similar advice:
“Knowing what type of man you want makes you more apt to recognize him when he floats into your airspace,” she writes. “And, believe it or not, it helps you to attract him.”
“In your mind, feel him, see him, hear him, taste him, smell him. How do you spend your time together? For example, what’s a Wednesday like?
“You should make a point of bringing this guy to life in your imagination twice a day, preferably before you get out of bed in the morning and just before you drop off to sleep at night. You’ll notice that, after a while, additional details will start to fill themselves in.”
Which brings me to the question: What do YOU deserve?
The next time you’re getting out of bed, or getting under the covers, imagine one detail about the future man in your life.
C’mon now, think about just one thing that you deserve.
Mine is easy: he will make me coffee in the morning. Yes, it’s that simple, and generous.
Now, let’s hear yours.
Originally published on SingleMomSeeking
