It’s hard to believe that just three years ago, merely talking to a woman gave me extreme amounts of anxiety. I hated the fact that I couldn’t talk to women and decided enough was enough. I started putting myself in situations that made me uncomfortable, and along the way I figured out a thing or two. The most important being that once you truly know who you are and what you believe in, confidence follows naturally. Here are a few other things I learned along the way:
A “5” can get a “10” … it’s all about personality.
You have to be confident, or at least pretend to be in the beginning.
Listen to what women say and remember the little things, i.e. favorite color, lipstick brand, bands, where she wants to travel ... this gives you ultimate power. But be genuine when you do these things. Playing a woman for some tail is a douchebag move.
Learn from your mistakes. You will have awkward moments, own them.
It’s a numbers game. You will get turned down. You will be told you’re unattractive. Don’t take it personal. It’s okay, one woman’s ugly is another woman’s sexual craving.
Know yourself before you attempt to know others. Confidence is natural in one who is at peace within.
Don’t get frustrated, woman collectively are full of contradictions. One will get mad that you planned the date without her, and the other will think the fact that you took charge is sexy as hell.
Flirting and sexuality is hugely important and so much fun once you get the hang of it.
Be yourself. There is no use being someone else to get the girl because once you have her, you will be sweating bullets wondering if she will accept you for who you really are.
Don’t ever sleep with a woman if you can tell she thinks it means more than it does. Be a man! If anything, not wanting to have sex with a woman right away will make her want you more.
Don’t press for her number right away if you meet online. You will know when its time to ask. Usually if they are digging you, they’ll offer up their number pretty quick.
Don’t be jealous of other people flirting with your woman. Take it as a compliment; they think she’s hot! You have the last laugh, you’re the one going home with her tonight and they’re not.
Women like being called beautiful. Hot and sexy have their place, too, but not all the time.
Try and figure out major issues which can be deal breakers and get them out in the open so you don’t end up hurting yourself or someone else down the road.
Women can be extremely sexual. Don’t confuse that for being a whore or a slut.
Don’t be ashamed of online dating. Everyone is doing it (or has at least thought about it) even if they don’t admit it.
Being labeled as shy is better than being labeled as cocky and arrogant.
Saving sex until a month or so down the road makes it absolutely amazing.
Dancing like a fool is usually better than being a wallflower.
If you have to drink to be comfortable on a date, you are not ready to date. Don’t use alcohol in order to let loose and have fun. If you do you are avoiding growing as a person. You will only let yourself down in the end.
If you don’t like the picture a woman emails you, be polite and return the email with a comment like I’m sorry but I don’t think we’re a good match. It’s not rude, attraction is extremely subjective.
If you are sleeping with a woman, it is prudent to know what she would do should she become pregnant!
And lastly, you shouldn’t need a woman to make you feel special or attractive.
