Food Habits, First Dates, and What It Means for Love

There are roughly one million thoughts and worries swarming through our heads on a first date. Is this a good match? Was that story I told funny-weird or just weird? And if the date takes place at a restaurant, the anxiety increases tenfold. Do I have food in my teeth? Did I order too little/too much? However, there’s an upside to having that first outing center on food—it could indicate whether a second date’s in the future. 

Food-ology and First Dates
Food-ology is the study of the connections between personalities and eating habits. Juliet A. Boghossian, a behavioral food expert who came up with the idea, believes that everything, from how we order to the foods we chose to the pace at which we eat, reveals more about our inner selves than we realize. She’s quick to point out that there’s only so much we can tell from a first date—“[It’s] too early to tell, [since] actual eating habits are altered to portray the best behavior,” she explains. But there are some minor things we can watch out for that might give us major insight. 

Menu Manners
Pay attention to the way your date orders his or her food. Menu preferences can indicate the way a person operates outside of the restaurant, too. 

Adventurous, Willing to Try New Things
A person under this category will show interest in the specials, ask for the waiter’s favorite picks, or make a point of trying something new. According to Boghossian, someone like this “will challenge [his or her] partner to new heights.” Excitedly exploring uncharted food territory often extends into an openness to change and new experiences in life. 

Stable, Prefers Routine to Spontaneity
If your date tells you he often orders the same dish at most restaurants, chances are he’s not a risk taker and finds comfort in routine. Someone who hesitates when trying unfamiliar foods probably has a fear of change, so if you’re looking for a partner up for anything, keep searching. But those craving stability should look no farther, says Boghossian. 

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02.04.2010
John Keegan
Vicki, I really like this article. You can learn quite a lot about a person by just sharing a meal.
01.18.2010
Manoj
Seriously MJ, You've never Paid... YOu must have been very GIVING with your time. or at least very leading. Most women starting out starting in their jobs make about the same. CLose to the same age and Especially on the FIRST DATE, when everything is up in the air the bill needs to be Split at dinner. It is different if it is only coffee or something small.
01.09.2010
Xoco
Interesting. I once went out with a guy that was a sloppy eater and it TOTALLY turned me off from a post-date kiss.Surprisingly, he did well on the "signs" test...still didn't work out though.
11.10.2009
integrity
I wasn't treated like a someone special until I let the man pay! If he feels you deserve it, why argue with it? All "dutch treat" means to him is "I don't feel I deserve to be treated by you". Would you pay for a gift someone wanted to give you? What about being a gracious receiver?
11.09.2009
frances davanzo
MJ, gag me. Your kind of thinking is what caused women to be considered property for centuries. Thinking that a man should pay for your time and company is asinine. That's like basically saying that all women are hookers.
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