Being single during the holidays tends to bring some singles into a state of melancholy, damping out their chances of finding a mate. Remember, happy, interesting, and available singles have more opportunities finding a relationship. Yes, I’ll admit it’s disheartening to see all the Kay Jeweler’s commercials where some in love guy is giving his darling a new token of his affection in the form of jewelry. Or even, The Biggest Loser finals watching, tearfully, the live marriage proposal. Though, this is not a time to be bitter about the fact that you’re spending the holidays without a mate. This is your call to action! Rejoice and renew your zest for life. Push aside those blues and take charge of the holidays. You’ll enjoy the holidays and be everything BUT alone! Here are some great opportunities for you to take charge of the holidays:
1. Explore the World: Plan an adventure for yourself or even with another single friend; the holidays are a great time to travel and discover new places and meet new people. Money a little tight? No worries, you can plan a day trip to another city close by. Go online and find a city’s Convention and Visitors Bureau website and look at their calendar of events. There’s always something interesting going on, even if it’s only 20 miles away.
2. Throw a Holiday Party: Get together with a couple of other single friends and plan your own holiday party. It’s always more fun to share in the planning, and expense. And no need to plan an expensive party—hot wings, dips and chips, fresh veggies, cheese and fruit tray, or make your own sub sandwiches, and a delicious dessert is plenty! Don’t cook? No problem. Check out your local grocer’s deli—they have it all ready to go for you. Make sure to send out an Evite to all of your other single friends and encourage them to bring a single friend too. You’ll have a blast and maybe meet someone special!
3. Give of Your Time and Talents: The holidays are a perfect time to volunteer to help those who are less fortunate. You can’t focus on your own problems when you are contributing to others. One of the best resources for finding volunteer opportunities is to check with your local Volunteer Center. They’re like the Grand Central Station of volunteer opportunities. All local charities needing volunteer help send their requests to them. Another resource is actually on meetup.com. One of my personal favorites is Random Acts of Kindness. They are always looking for people to help with one of their volunteer opportunities. Also, if you have a favorite charity or love of some cause, you should check with them directly by visiting their Web site or calling them directly to see what opportunities are available. Additionally, if you’re a member of a church, check to see what your women’s or men’s group may be doing to support a local charity. You never know what good you can do in the world, until you give of yourself through volunteering.
So, get out there and embrace the holidays with a cheerful spirit! You’ll be glad you did. Remember: happy, interesting and available singles have more opportunities finding a relationship.
