So many beautiful and interesting women I know can’t meet a great guy because they are closing themselves off to others, very often unconsciously. If you’re one of those ladies wondering “where are all the great guys hiding,” then it’s time to take a look at what you’re doing that is literally scaring them away.
I’m a dating coach for men and women in New York City, and attractive and successful men come to me to learn how to move past their anxieties about approaching women. The truth is almost all men have anxieties about starting a conversation with a woman they are attracted to. Even if they are bold enough to approach, they will walk away at the first perceived sign that a women isn’t interested.
All too many times, I have witnessed a man walk away from a conversation with a woman and have seen the confused look on her face as he did. Most girls are unaware of the signals they send that tell a guy “I’m not interested,” even if they truly are interested.
I’d like to share some things you can do to help us help you to meet a great guy:
1. Open Yourself Up to New Possibilities
You can meet a great guy anywhere. By letting go of the antiquated notions about how and where people fall in love, you open yourself up to new adventures. Don’t only segment your dating opportunities to social circles, parties, bars, or speed dating events. Fun and interesting people are standing next you in line at the supermarket, combing through fodder at bookstores, sitting in the park, walking down the street, or even on the subway (no they are not all creepy guys with twirled moustaches in trench coats). So seize the moment and let the world be your playground.
2. Follow Your Interest ...
... But do so outside of your apartment. Go to cafes to read and post on Facebook instead of sitting alone at home. Go to art galleries and other events. Just by putting yourself in situations with new people you open up to new possibilities. Also, place yourself in areas that make it easy to meet others (e.g. don’t face the wall).
