If You Ever Need a Pal

By: Pégy Gaile (View Profile)

Hello I’m pleased you came back for a little look see. I hope you’re nice and relaxed and ready to ponder the word friendship with me. Friendship is a curious thing I think. I’ve been watching and have been involved for a while now in various friendships. It appears to me the people that constantly tell you that they love and care for you are the first to treat you horribly. I guess some people have issues that they don’t take the time to discuss with the person that may have annoyed them and feel the only recourse is to walk. I know I’m guilty of this I think if I’m in your life trying to do good for and by you if I’m no longer there you should perhaps ask yourself why. I’ve discovered that some people don’t ask themselves anything they immediately go on the attack I guess in an effort to continue to feel right about who they are. We are all guilty of this so we bumble around in our heads trying to justify unpalatable deeds we may have done. This is generally done by involving someone else who will agree with you because they are your friend.

I have been lucky because I have learned that if you throw enough time at someone they usually tell you who they are by their actions. I also maintain that good people stay in your life and bad ones don’t. Sometimes all you have to do is wait, and eventually like snow they melt away. This saves you from the disappointment of the fair-weathered friend who is all over you like a fly on ice cream when things are hunky-dory, but soon fade away when anything more than drinking companionship is needed of them.

I don’t hate anybody on this planet and stand here foolishly sometimes I think with my arms open wide in friendship. This does not make me stupid as some might think. There are of course people always waiting in the wings to exploit someone’s friendliness, but I still think it’s better to find out and know who exactly you have been consorting with. I have seen the best of friends argue and then unable to find a way forward to be each other’s lives again bitch and attack each other privately always maintaining it was the other persons fault. It’s so easy I feel to sit around and place all blame at the feet of the ex friend but like we all should know it takes two to tango and some people have a very hard time facing up to themselves.

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posted: 04.28.2007
Catalina Cordew
Hi Pegy, I really have been with a lot of nice people throughout my life. I am 55 years old. I have had young and older and not so old friends that I still keep in touch with. But the best ones that I cherish are the ones I grew up with. There is something about growing up with someone, because you really get to know the good and the bad. And it is up to you if you will continue to associate with them. I keep in touch with a lot of them. Friendship means a lot. Good times and bad times. I can go home to Philadelphia and not worry where I will stay. Such nice friends. When I was 29 years old, I enlisted in the Army.Believe me, my head was not all there (smile). But I stayed in for 3 years. I married a military guy. We stayed married for 12 years. So, I was in Ft Bragg, North Carolina. I have 2 children. Well, my daughter moved to Calfornia and later asked med to come and help out with the grandchildren. Nice people are all over. Well, bye for now.
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