I’m My Own Mean Girl

By: Molly Mann (View Profile)

We women need to truly evaluate the meaning of friendship and our own personal expectations of female relationships. Are worthwhile friendships based on jealousy and insecurity, or love, acceptance, and encouragement?

From now on, I will make a conscious effort not to participate in self-criticism, nor to tolerate it in my friends. By maintaining confidence in myself, I believe I will actually make myself a more attractive person. Most importantly, my friendships will be based on love for one another, rather than competition for the love of men. I will forever keep in mind that in strong, resilient female bonds lays women’s strength.

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posted: 08.28.2008
Wontonsushi
I absolutely love the idea of no longer allowing yourself to be sucked into the negative body image talk that so many woman get trapped in. It's hard enough being nice to yourself. I think that by not letting those around you sink into this self-deprecating behavior you will be doing them a service as well. Thank you for the insight and wonderfully written contribution.
posted: 08.26.2008
Jamerica
Thank you for the article. I was always the fat friend of the skinny chicks in school, so this made me feel like someone else understands.
posted: 02.01.2008
T H
I love this article.....especially the end. Strong friendships cannot be based on bashing -- whether it be on others or ourselves. True acceptance can only come from people who accept and don't judge others based on outward appearances and facades. Thanks!
posted: 08.10.2007
Jordan Tiffany
As a sorority sister, I am constantly surrounded by girls criticizing both their own as well as other girls' appearances. It's hard to be around people that make you feel like you SHOULD be feeling critical, and I admit that i've been caught up in the destructive moments more than once. This article is a nice wake up call to all those who've felt like pinching that extra inch.
posted: 08.10.2007
Lanna McCain
Molly.Great article.Thank you for sharing your personal observations with us.You are right.Until we learn to love ourselves and learn to appreciate our unique body type we cannot give love to anyone else.There IS beauty in the uniqueness of our bodies no matter what their size,shape,color or make up. Lanna
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