Has this ever happened to you? You are somewhere at a place and bump into a friend. Your friend is also with another friend with whom she introduces you to. While you are trying to be amicable and establish a conversation, you immediately feel the aloofness of your friend’s friend. Not only is the friend acting rude but you get the feeling that something is not right.
More than likely this person:
1) Is plain out rude.
2) Is jealous of your presence.
3) Is intimidated by you.
4) Doesn’t know any better.
5) Is not all there.
6) Or, your friend has secretly bad mouthed you and made you look like an evil person.
The answer is (6)
Your friend’s friend has a subjective point of view of you and you sense treachery. In the meantime, you trusted your friend with all your might and soul. And just when you thought, ‘oh, what a coincidence that we find each other here’, you now feel betrayed.
And so your friend notices your vigilant glare and starts to do a repartee. You wonder why she even bothers if you can see right through her. You begin to think of the countless times and people she has talked to about you. But now, does it even matter what she might be saying?
At this point, you’re thinking if it’s worth it to confront your friend about the situation. But since she is cleverly trying to act her way out of playing the part, you doubt that her friendship is worth saving.
That all depends. How long have you been friends? To what level do you consider your friendship? How much trust has been built in the friendship? Is this the first incident that you confront or have you had problems in the past? How well were you able to resolve past issues? How much do you love and respect each other? What did you do wrong to begin with that your friend might do something like this to you? Not that if you did do something to her you deserve to get what you are getting. Karma perhaps? Who's the bigger person?
