Jealous Jenny gets upset if you mention any of your other friends around her. Even if she doesn’t like a particular friend of yours, she’ll still ask why she wasn’t invited. She gets psychotic when you date someone and usually starts to knock him sight unseen. Don’t keep things from her. Be honest. Tell her that you care for her, but she needs to stop being jealous of your other friends. For the possessive Jennys, there is little you can do.
Judge Judy constantly has an opinion about you or finds fault with you. Judy may pretend to be supportive, but makes sly remarks to undermine you. It’s so subtle at first that you hadn’t noticed it earlier in the relationship. Even seemingly innocent comments become suspect. “You need to put some meat on your bones. You look too thin.” If she doesn’t approve of where you met a man, she’ll look at you in horror and say, “Oh, you met him at a bar??!!” Judy is a highly wound insecure being that is really talking about herself when she knocks you—but knowing this may not change how you feel. If you value the friendship, tell her how such comments make you feel. Those less aware of their behavior may say things like, “I didn’t know you were so sensitive.” This kind of behavior may not improve. Accept that she’s not going to change—or cut your losses.
Gossiping Gail discloses too much. With this friend, be clear about what is confidential and what is public. But the hardcore Gossiping Gail wants to make trouble for you and everyone you know. Whenever anything goes in one ear, it comes out of her mouth minutes later. Gossips try to forge enemies and pit women against one another. Some may even double-cross you and your friends. Dump her.
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