I Just Don’t Get It

Thank you Robyn

This is tough; you could spend many hours wondering what happened, but without some honest feedback, you might never really know. It could have everything to do with you, and nothing at all. Certainly there have been times where my friends and family all seem so caught up in their lives that they give their relationship with me short shrift. I have sometimes reached out to say, "I'm here," and get a smattering of interest that quickly fades away. When you're in a particularly vulnerable point in your life, that kind of glancing attention can be very painful. It's tempting then to withdraw into hurt feelings and self-doubt, but going there only makes one feel a victim. It may be helpful to redouble efforts to get out, strike up conversations with people in grocery lines, attend some events with receptions that follow (like art openings) and try to make some new friends. Body language or pheromones - people who act like they have plenty of friends have no problem acquiring new ones!