Need to Let Go

By: Sunshine (View Profile)

I would love some advice on this... I am sharing a home with my Dad (we got it after my mom passed away.) We have been here in this home for four years. I have a son who is fifteen. I met a wonderful man...and he moved in with us. My Dad and him did not see eye to eye on some things...and ended up having some pretty bad words spoken to each other. Then my Dad, who is eighty-one, called the family and got then all worked up. They (my baby sister and two nephews) came over. They would not listen to my side. Things are pretty heated and a lot of things were said…

My family says I should be on my Dad’s side. Which I am, but my father, as he has gotten older, gets angry easily and very upset if you don’t agree with him. My family is not around enough to see these changes in him. Well after the blow up, I wrote my sister an e-mail telling her that I can’t make her like the way I live my life and who I choose to live it with. All my life I was always seeking approval from everyone. I said I love my family and I love Dad... But I LOVE my guy VERY much (we are planning on getting married.) I went on to say that I loved her and I was going to put this in God’s hands. I can’t make her feel something she doesn’t want to.

Well about two weeks later I got an e-mail from her. WOW! She had things to say to me from twenty years ago...how I had hurt her and how selfish I was and it was always about me. She talked about our Mom and then went on to say that everyone in the family felt the same… Then she said that I had gotten away with too much... (I don’t know really what that means) I have another sister that’s older than me… She has not called or even tried to find out what went on… But my baby sister sure has let her know her side.

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posted: 11.11.2007
Kiesha Ann
Hi, I am so sorry for your hurt that I am I know wht you are going through I have been through a similar situation, an the advice I can give you that has helped me get by an to also not feel so guilty is If by the end of the day you can know that you done everything you can think of to mend the relationship, then you have to let go an put the rest of the responsibility in there hands because it seems to me you have done your part in this whole thing, so give them time an still if they have not come around then know that you have tried, but also remember everyone deals with hurt pain rejection in different ways not saying its right but the ball is in there court now you did what you had to do an I commend you for it!!!! dont buy there love or acceptance as u was helping them financially because they will never respect u.
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